Saturday, February 14, 2015

A Letter to my Single Friends on Valentine's Day

I've always had a heart for those who are not in romantic relationships this time of year. I found myself feeling awful my last year in college. It wasn’t about being "Debbie Downer," it was about not accepting that the rest of us did not deserve to be happy or even content that day of the year. How unGodly! So I got together with my roommate Shameca and we decided to throw a dorm party for girls who didn’t have a date for Valentines. Best idea ever. I remember being surprised by the number of women who showed up in their PJs. At first it was awkward. We all made our way slowly in to the lobby’s living room. The plan was to watch a movie and to have snacks and just hang out together. I remember saying a few words to encourage everyone not to feel sad because they didn’t have a boyfriend. Suddenly people felt more at ease and there was a lot of chatter and laughter. I don’t know if those women remember that night but I will never forget it. It seems that God wrote something in my heart. He was reminding me that we are all important to Him regardless of our marital status.

Friend, you are loved by your Heavenly Father and you're of much worth! Don't be distracted: marital status doesn't define your worth, Jesus already did that for you on the cross. I have many friends who are single and I treasure those friendships. Today, I want to remind you that there are so many wonderful things you can do in this season of life. 

Remember Timothy? He got a good list of things to do from his mentor Paul. So let’s take the liberty to read these words as if they were for ourselves: 

Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity. Until I get there, focus on reading the Scriptures to the church, encouraging the believers, and teaching them. Do not neglect the spiritual gift you received through the prophecy spoken over you when the elders of the church laid their hands on you. Give your complete attention to these matters. Throw yourself into your tasks so that everyone will see your progress. Keep a close watch on how you live and on your teaching. Stay true to what is right for the sake of your own salvation and the salvation of those who hear you.” 1 Timothy 4:11-16 (NLT) 

My dear friend, I hate to tell you this but people will think less of you but you don’t have to let them. Focus on being an example through the way you serve the Lord Jesus. In a more practical way, I believe that God has entrusted you with many things to do before you change your marital status. Immerse yourself in them and as God blesses you with a spouse, you will have the internal satisfaction to know that you did exactly what God called you to do in your single season of life.

Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are single. Your Heavenly Father loves and cares for you. Choose this day to remind God of His promises to you. Rejoice in those promises because His Word is true and never return to Him void. Lastly, surround yourself with people who have a greater vision of yourself than you do. Some of us think highly of you. Although we are not in the same season of life, God has given us a heart of passion for you and what you’re all about. Look for those friends and be good to them. They will encourage you to be fierce about your calling and purpose. Happy Valentine’s Day. You are so loved!

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