The Secret Life of a Pastor’s Wife

“But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.” Matthew 6:6

Got you. You thought I was going to give you the juicy stuff right? I can still do that! Let’s see… Easter Sunday was an awesome time for us. As a Worship Pastor’s wife, I got really smart and started preparing ahead of time: outfits for the kids, everyone’s hair was done, shoes were ready to go and oh, the food! I cooked the kids’ breakfast and got started on our lunch. I was super tired by the kids’ bedtime so I fell asleep just to wake up at 4 a.m. We were all in church ready for the 6 a.m. sunrise service. The kids enjoyed their experience and I’m glad we all were together to greet the day and to celebrate Jesus’ victory on the cross. Four services later we were back home where I finished lunch, washed a bunch of dishes and prayed that the kids would sleep that afternoon so I could rest too.

This Pastor’s wife does a lot of things out of sight and my secret life fuels my public life. Matthew 6:6 speaks about being seen in secret. I understand that’s challenging because nowadays our sense of self-importance is in an all time high. I know some doctors who are less available than the ordinary person with a cell phone. Those little screens give us the impression that we should be available 24/7 and there are no restraints on what we show. I must remind you that I’m a social media user and I love the benefits of different platforms but I also believe in balance and self-control. God sees in secret. If my phone is there, I’m open to the public. I also understand that some of my readers pray with others believers through phone groups and on Facebook Live. If that’s the only time you pray, we have a problem my friend. There’s a place for praying with other people but we should prioritize praying in secret by ourselves. I believe that there’s where refreshment happens.

The secret of life of this pastor’s wife is fueled by prayer to the Father in secret. I become closer to God because that prayer life increases my intimacy with God. I know that might sound funny but I wouldn’t exchange that for 1 million followers on my favorite social media platform.

I wonder how your secret life of prayer to the Father is going. Can you increase the frequency of your connection with Him? Jesus gave us full access to the Father and trust me, there’s not a person on earth that has more magic when it comes to prayer. Use the access Jesus died to give you. Develop a secret life of prayer that will fuel your public life.

More on this Series:
• 5 years of Houston: Stuff I can say
• 4 years of Houston: Reflections
• 3 things you may not know about people in ministry
• Pastor's Wife: Purpose and Security