Simply Cintia

Fruit: No Sweat Required

2012-01-26T14:25:00.001-05:00

"I have given you a land for which you did not labor, and cities which you did not build, and you dwell in them; you eat of the vineyards and olive groves which you did not plant." Joshua 24:13

Every time I go on my backyard I think about this verse. We moved to Houston and look what we found: fruit trees! The awesome feeling I have to just collect fruit from trees remind me of this Bible verse. Hope you're having an amazing Thursday!

2 c-sections in 2 years = 3 Lessons

2012-01-25T15:59:00.001-05:00

Although my previous pregnancies brought about secret wishes of having a VBAC, I am now totally comfortable with having a third c-section. If you know you are headed that way or you just want to learn about the bright side of things, check out these 3 Lessons I learned learned:

1. The Beautiful End Result - whether emergency or scheduled, remember the process you are going through brings about the beautiful result of new life. Your 9 months of pregnancy culminate into the moment you see the faces of your children. Remembering my goal of seeing my baby was a key way to stay encouraged about having the process of a c-section.
2. I'm no Super Hero - Once baby is here, mom needs to recover. The thing is that those motherly instincts kick in like crazy and all of a sudden you want to grab a cape and fly to save the whole world while you breastfeed. I can tell you by experience that it sucks not to feel like yourself but doing what it takes means you won't have to delay the process. So recover well my friend.
3. Help: Asking and Accepting - I left the hospital with pages of instructions on how to successful recover at home. Engaging in home cleaning, cooking and lifting a 18-month-old were out of the map for a couple of weeks. I desperately needed help. During my first c-section God sent us our church family to help with everything we needed. During my second one my mother was there. I noticed that if a woman seems "too self-sufficient," people will shy away from being hands-on to help. Whatever your personality is, make it work for you when asking for help. Make a list of things you need so when people call you can tell them to pick up an item at the store or clean a room for you. One things is for sure, accepting help enables you to save your strength for your precious newborn and to recover. Asking and Accepting Help is a sign of Strength.
I pray that these tips helped you get a better idea of what happens during and after you have a c-section. For more details, read my Birth Stories at my Pregnancy Page. The joy of having a new baby supersedes anything you might go through those 9 months before you see your baby for the first time. Enjoy your new baby and be well!

Tweeting with God eBook for FREE

2012-01-24T18:14:00.001-05:00

I don't consider to have it all together and I tell you why. There are days that I just can't seem to get my kids to behave well, the food won't taste right and let's not talk about the traditional devotional time. I wrote Tweeting with God for days and seasons like these. One thing is for sure, through the nuances of motherhood I have experienced God's amazing favor and love. When I can't seem to wake up early and get my day started as I dream I should (devotional, exercise, food) God is there to meet me. I believe He loves and understands mothers and the commitments that come along with this season of life.
I used to be the chick who would always wake up early to pray and exercise. I used to leave my house and "float" to work. Now that I am a mother I wake up with my kids staring at me while I can't possibly believe it's 6:30 a.m. already and I need to fix oatmeal in a hurry.
Hurry leads to worry. I worry about not having a "good witness" that day because I lacked in my Bible reading. What I find out is that even when all I have time for is to Tweet with God, He always meets me where I am and saves my day.
I realize that a so called "good witness" in my book includes being less than perfect while living life to the fullest. I have to let God speak through through me while He displays His grace and favor in my life.
I am aware that when I seek God first, everything works out (see Matthew 6:32-34). I also know that motherhood (the part when you have two busy toddlers and about to have a newborn to make life even more exciting) is only one season among many I will experience in life. I might not get the perfect devotional done every day and that really doesn't matter. As long as I "tweet" my prayers, worship and love for God throughout the day, I am usually okay. I also realize that when I do that, I'm teaching my kids not to put God in the morning only box but to walk with Him throughout the day.

I want to give my eBook for Free to any of you who can relate to what I am going through. You are busy and you want to connect with God but these new demands of life seem to take up a lot of time and energy. Just leave me a comment and I'll get in touch with you. Have an amazing day and please let go of any shame or condemnation. You are loved by God, just as you are.

Needed: Friendships

2012-01-23T14:12:00.001-05:00

The Easy Delivery

2012-01-20T09:52:00.000-05:00

"...encourage each other every day, as long as it's called "today"..." Hebrews 3:13

I have always loved writing letters. I was surprised to see how many I used to receive in middle and high school. When I met a person, I'd ask for their address so I could write them and keep in touch. I remember receiving letters 6 days a week. The digital age made life easier but the letters started to cease. I now get mostly cards for Christmas and my birthday. If I get a letter it's because there is something REALLY wrong. How sad! Letters were not only a way to keep in touch but also a way to encourage people. We human beings are so creative that we came up with other ways to do it. The digital age has not made our need for encouragement diminish but it has made the delivery of encouragement easier.
My friend Rachel and I keep in touch through social media, Skype and the ole telephone. She sent me a card yesterday and it made my day. It was totally unexpected and it was so very encouraging. It made me think of Hebrews 3:13 because "Today" is all we have. The moment we think about a person, it's our sign to deliver encouragement, however we choose to do it. Who knows if our words may be the life line a person needs for that day?
Whether you choose to send an encouraging tweet, a quick message on Facebook or a long e-mail, remember to take action as soon as someone comes to your mind. Do pray but follow up with action, even if it's to say 'I prayed for you, hope you're having a blessed day.'
My challenge for you is to encourage 3 people today: family, friends or strangers (these are a lot of fun to encourage). The good thing about encouragement is that you reap what you sow, usually when you need the most.

Pregnant Women Hear the Darndest Things

2012-01-19T17:28:00.000-05:00

All it takes is a glance at this belly:

These are some of the most interesting things I hear when I'm pregnant and the things I wish I could say in response:
1 • Are you sure there is just one in there? - Yes, I just gained enough weight for 3 pregnancies.

2 • Sleep now cause when the baby gets here... - Maybe I'll be one of the lucky ones with the baby who read the manual.

3 • Do you want a boy or a girl? - I want a healthy, peaceful and obedient child (I actually do say that to people).

4 • Go ahead girl, you're eating for two - Clearly you don't know much about nutrition.

5 • You're pregnant again?! Did you plan it? - We planned to have sex, didn't we? (Zeke used this one before)

Curiosidades dos Estates: Estudo Bíblico Digital

2012-01-18T09:12:00.001-05:00

A era digital trouxe muita coisa interessante pra igreja. Uma dessas coisas é o Estudo Bíblico Digital. Aqui nos Estados Unidos ele é feito de várias maneiras. É importante saber que ele não substitui a importância de se congregar na igreja. Aqui vão alguns exemplos:
• YouVersion - quando uma pessoa coloca essa App no seu telefone ou iPad (pode ser usado no web também), ela te dá a opção de ler a Bíblia em 1 ano ou por tópicos. Muita gente aqui não leva mais a Bíblia (o livro) pra igreja. Alguns pastores começam a pregação dizendo "abram a sua Bíblia ou a sua App no livro de..."

• Twitter - Esse é um lugar onde você muitos grupos discutindo a Bíblia. Por exemplo, um grupo de mães do grupo Hello Mornings se compromentem a acordar cedo pra orar, ler a Bíblia e discutem o que leram no Twitter. Também já vi muita gente se reunindo no Twitter pra conversar sobre o programa de ler a Bíblia em 90 dias.
• Estudo Bíblico Virtual - a igreja Grace Community Church aqui em Houston está lendo e estudando um livro dessa forma. Por 4 semanas você assiste os pastores falando sobre o livro da casa deles (assista o vídeo da primeira semana em Inglês aqui) e interagindo com pessoas que estão assistindo e mandando perguntas pro website da igreja, Twitter ou Facebook.

Na minha opinião o Estudo Bíblico Online não deve substituir as atividades da igreja, mas é um jeito criativo de ministrar pra uma geração que passa mais tempo na internet do que na igreja. Espero que essas dicas foram interessantes! Deus abençoe,

Cintia

Marriage: 6 Years, 6 Lessons

2012-01-17T09:40:00.000-05:00

Photo: Wedding day: Tuesday, January 17, 2006

My husband and I celebrate 6 years of marriage today. I wanted to share the 6 lessons we have learned in the past 6 years. It’s as simple as A-B-C-D-E-F:

Agreement • Having harmony in marriage makes life so pleasant. When you walk in agreement, you also establish what type of marriage you are going to have as well as which things you will or won’t allow to come between you. Amos 3:3 ask a pivotal question: Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? Agreement in Marriage helps us set the direction of our lives together.

Boundaries • Life is fluid and I need to keep making adjustments. One of our main goals is to establish boundaries where our family's autonomy is without question. In this autonomy, there is one head of the family (my husband) where both parents are the decision makers. No outsiders get to decide our future. We know there is wisdom in Godly counsel but we are responsible for our family before God, thus making the establishment of boundaries a huge necessity for a successful marriage.

Connection • Dates are not the only ways to connect. I can connect during those first moments when my husband gets home. I can also reconnect in other ways. Speaking his love language well helps us stay connected.

Dream • Having dreams for the future has been blissful. No matter what circumstances we encounter, dreaming and establishing goals for the future has given us hope and helped us stay connected in this journey. Living a quality life includes more than waking up in the same bed. Having hope for the future gives us an amazing sense of purpose as a couple. It is also a lot of fun.

Encouragement • When you focus on your spouse’s virtues and not their faults, you are using encouragement as a powerful tool in your marriage. For many, remembering to be encouraging can be a challenge and a skill learned. The many benefits includes a more positive atmosphere in your home and healing. Encouragement is a discipline that reminds us of what’s right with the person we fell in love with. Read about a 30-Day Encouragement Challenge.

Foundation • I often go back to the foundation of my marriage to Zeke. Foundation is the ground where a structure stands. In our case, our foundation is in Christ. We all know that buildings with strong foundations stand the test of time, rains, etc. Having a strong foundation is critical for the success of the marriage relationship.

I pray that your marriage is getting stronger and stronger as the years go by.

3 Tips for Mothers who Need Friends

2012-01-16T12:56:00.001-05:00

My every need to connect with other mothers has been met: I am now a member of MOPS. “The purpose of MOPS International is to encourage, equip and develop every Mother of a Preschooler to realize her potential as a woman, mother and leader in the name of Jesus Christ.”

I was very eager to attend my first meeting. My group meets twice a month and they provide child care. The welcome I received from everyone was very warm and genuine. There was an amazing breakfast served, a time of devotional and prayer too. There were 3 of us who were new, so we had an orientation to the group. I was assigned to help with the Publicity Team, which I was very happy about. While we were in the orientation the other ladies had an ice-breaker and the meeting closed with a time of open discussion in the tables. I had to leave a bit earlier cause I was going to grab lunch with a friend downtown.

I was impressed with the type of women who are part of MOPS. The one thing everyone had in common was motherhood and the desire to be the best they could be. Once again, I am assured that God made some things in a way that ethnicity nor money can change. We all show love to our children, we all need the connection and encouragement.

I have been eagerly praying for my MOPS group. I go in with the mentality that it is a good fit for me but I know God also wants me to contribute with something. I pray that I will be able to discern what that is.

I have been eagerly working to connect in the community and I think that the kids and I have reached our goal. We are part of MOPS, a community play group, we go to Toddler story time at the Pubic Library, and we go to church 3 times a week. It took a few months but I think we found a schedule that works well for us.

Here are 3 things I’ve learned about connecting:1 • I need to show myself friendly in order to have friends (Proverbs 18:24 KJV);2 • I need to get out there and find mommy & me groups;3 • I need to contribute to the group as well as enjoy the benefits.Question of the Day: How do you go about connecting with other mothers? Any helpful tips?

The Case for Rest

2012-01-12T07:45:00.002-05:00

One of the main lessons I am learning this season is how to take time to recharge daily. I sometimes feel like I am supposed to be this amazing fortress that can withstand everything all by myself. While being stressed out, tired and constantly going beyond what’s humanly possible seems to be the way to success, in my reality being rested has proven to bring a more qualitative life. I keep wondering what’s the use of riding the wave of success just to break down in high sea. What is the reason to keep finding stimulants to keep your body working 24 hours a day just to find your health diminished? I think the answer to these questions is within the heart. Proverbs 4:23 says that the what’s in your heart determines the course of your life. The reason why some think they have to do everything by themselves is within their hearts. I agree that some seasons of life are naturally busy while most are self-inflicting. I used to take this month to set goals and I joined the masses in working in them with all my might. While I still believe in achieving goals, I no longer do it to the detriment of my well-being. Being aware of the estate of my heart and carefully calculating priorities has proven to be helpful. Some of you might say that being pregnant is a great time to do that because you can’t function otherwise. The same principle can be applied to someone giving birth to a dream. We all have 24 hours available. All of us need rest, which brings about refreshment and recharging to keep working on our dreams. Like most of us, you also need to apply those 24 hours in the care of family, work and other parts of life. Look at how many responsibilities you have. You really need to use your time wisely my friend. Being rested allows you to make wiser decisions. Consider the results of chronic overworking and stress: brilliant people who break down and make major mistakes causing harm to many. The people you influence on a daily basis need you at your best.

A rested mind is creative and sharp. Don’t be tempted to overwork yourself just because it seems popular. Count the cost, choose your priorities wisely and start from guarding your heart with all diligence. The heart is the wellspring of life.

Oração da Criança

2012-01-11T16:21:00.000-05:00

Eu aprendi essa oração (na verdade era o moto da sociedade de crianças da minha igreja) quando era pequena. Agora estou ensinando aos meus filhos. O mais velho está quase decorando tudo. Queria compartilhar com vocês:

Papai do Céu
Como Jesus quero ser
Criança boa, amável, serviçal

Ensina-nos Senhor, a ter prazer
a dar o nosso auxílio pessoal

ao pobre, ao doente, a todos em geral
por Jesus, Amém.

Nunca esqueci desse moto e estou passando pros meus filhos. Recitamos toda noite antes de dormir. Quais são as orações ou músicas que você aprendeu na igreja e agora está passando pros seus filhos?

Parents as Leaders

2012-01-10T13:37:00.001-05:00

Other posts in this series:
• Organization
• Survey
• Turning Frustration into Gratification

Fasting While Pregnant

2012-01-09T08:44:00.002-05:00

I often start the year with fast and prayer. My church for example started 31 days of prayer this month where we are all encouraged to fast (however we chose) and pray. For the past 4 years I haven't been able to fast in the traditional sense of the word (abstain from food) because I'm often pregnant. I still feel the need to connect with God in a deeper way so what I do is to search the Scriptures to find out what real fasting is all about and how I can apply it to my life. If you read Isaiah 58:6-11 you get a great picture of the fast God has chosen. Even when I am not expecting and able to do a more traditional fast, I keep this amazing reminder in front of me. The great news for pregnant women and people who can't abstain for food is that some of these things don't require abstinence from eating. Here's verse 7 in the New King James Version:
"Is it not to share your bread with the hungry,
      And that you bring to your house the poor who are cast out;
      When you see the naked, that you cover him,
      And not hide yourself from your own flesh?" Isaiah 58:7 (NKJV)

What if we decide to feed the hungry during this month? What if we decide to give clothes to families who need new clothes but can't afford them? What if we take this time of fasting to reconcile with our own families? Pregnancy has indeed encouraged me to feel that I can still search the scriptures and do what God requires of all of us. Pregnancy is a different and sensitive season of life as I explain in my eBook Tweeting with God. It is a season where God gently guides us to still waters and I am thankful. If you can't fast for some reason, please don't feel discouraged. Search the Scriptures and pray about how you can connect with God as you start the year you give birth. I'm going to giveaway a copy of my eBook to a reader who answers the question of the day. The winner will be chosen by random.org.

Question of the day: Did/Do you feel discouraged for not being able to fast while pregnant? Did you find an alternative to fasting? What was it?

Birthday 2012: a video Recap

2012-01-05T19:52:00.001-05:00

Pregnancy: Week 14

2012-01-04T14:09:00.000-05:00

I am so thankful to God for allowing me to get to Week 14! How I looked forward to the second trimester! The first trimester sometimes felt like a "trial-mester" because I never experienced such intense nausea and tiredness. I can honestly say that I am starting to feel more like myself. Here are my the Pearls & Poops of my third pregnancy:

Pearls

• I feel more like myself. There are days that I have so much energy I clean my entire house. I know, I'm impressed too.

• I'm starting to feel the baby fluttering. Because I've had my first one I know what to expect and it's so much fun to feel this baby moving in my womb. A feeling only I get to experience and I treasure this experience so, so much.

Poops

• My immune system is a little different than my non-pregnant self, which means when colds come they tend to linger. I lost my voice (nightmare!) and I still sound funny but the blessing is that I am getting better. We have a lemon tree in the backyard so I've been enjoying having lemon water daily.

• I've been experiencing an intense dryness in my nose, although Houston is very humid. During my last 2 pregnancies I had something similar when I was 5 months pregnant. It's completely normal yet annoying and at the same time, I am grateful to be enjoying optimum health.
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Apparently I ~~freaked out~~ scared a lot of people last Sunday when I started jumping during one of our worship songs. I told the people who were concerned about my health my kids are used to it. I gave them my resume of running up to Week 12 as well as dancing and jumping as long as 9 months. Then when the kids are born we are back to worship rehearsal they get to 'dance' with mamãe in the sling (BIG smile).

So this is what I look like on week 14. I took this photo yesterday during my birthday party. Tomorrow I'll have a video of the party and I'll tell you about everything that happened. Last year I told my husband that it was weird not to be pregnant during my birthday. I certainly did not have this feeling this year. For the past 4 years I've been mostly pregnant during my birthdays :) I know it will be fun to look back at the photos and remember this season of life. Hope your new year has been fantastic thus far!

Happy Birthday Cintia Feliz Aniversário Cintia

2012-01-03T10:45:00.001-05:00

Today, January 3 is my birthday. Hoje, dia 3 de Janeiro é o meu aniversário. This is a photo of me when I was around 6 months so you can have a visual of young Cintia. Essa é uma foto minha de quando eu tinha uns 6 meses pra você ter uma idea de como eu era quando bebê. My birthdays are usually comprised of quiet but very meaningful celebrations but not this year. Geralmente eu não faço muita festa no meu aniversário mas esse ano vai ser diferente. I decided to embrace my Brazilian heritage and organize my first party in I don't know how long. Resolvi lembrar da minha herança brasileira e organizar minha primeira festa de aniversário. I am thankful to God for blessing me with one more year of abundant life. Estou agracedia a Deus por me abençoar com mais um ano de vida abundante. My birthday really signifies a new beginning. Meu aniversário significa recomeçar. I am looking forward to enjoying another year with my wonderful husband and kids. Estou animada pra comerçar outro ano com meu esposo maravilho e com nossos filhos. This is my Bible verse for today, I hope it blesses you. Essa foi a minha leitura bíblica pra hoje, espero que seja uma bênção pra você.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart;

do not depend on your own understanding.
Seek his will in all you do,
and he will show you which path to take." Proverbs 3:5-6

"Confia no Senhor de todo o teu coração, e não te estribes no teu próprio entendimento. Reconhece-o em todos os teus caminhos, e ele endireitará as tuas veredas." Provérbios 3:5-6

No Resolutions? No Problem!

2012-01-02T15:41:00.000-05:00

Happy New Year to you! I pray that 2012 is the best year of your life. Now that the holidays are over (for most people) it's time to start again. I think the holidays will be over for us after tomorrow (my birthday). Unlike many, I don't have any resolutions. I am in the business of life improvement but for some reason my transition time and my amazing third pregnancy threw me off my normal. I have always been a believer that there is no need to wait til January 1 to change. I remember "starting over" on odd days of the week just to see if I could. What I have learned over the years is that real change requires nothing but a willing heart. Today I want to talk to those of you who like me, don't feel ready to join the multitudes with the resolutions, life goals or whatever you call it. You want to make progress but remember that living well is progress. In this season of new beginnings, remember not to lose Hope. Here's an encouraging Word:

"Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart, All you who hope in the LORD."

Psalm 31:24

Have a New Year filled with Hope. No need to make resolutions if you know what you want and you have a heart filled with Hope in God.

New Year Ano Novo

2011-12-31T08:56:00.002-05:00

“Thus says the LORD, who makes a way in the sea And a path through the mighty waters, “ Do not remember the former things, Nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness And rivers in the desert.”

Isaiah 43:16, 18-19 NKJV

"Assim diz o Senhor, o que preparou no mar um caminho, e nas águas impetuosas uma vereda; Não vos lembreis das coisas passadas, nem considereis as antigas. Eis que faço uma coisa nova; agora está saindo a luz; porventura não a percebeis? eis que porei um caminho no deserto, e rios no ermo."

Isaías 43:16, 18-19

Our Brazilian Version of Christmas Dinner

2011-12-27T11:47:00.000-05:00

Christmas dinner was a blast. We usually celebrate it on the 24th during dinner time. Our family decided to do it during lunch so the kids could enjoy it. We had a beautiful Christmas service at church that night and I was sure that the kids would be exhausted by the time we arrived at home. Zeke cooked the dessert (not in the picture) which was Rabanada. It is kind of a Brazilian French toast but we don't eat it with syrup, instead we coat it in sugar and cinnamon. This year we had a host of things to eat: smoked turkey, rice, black beans, farofa (yuca seasoned with onions and bacon), maionese (potato and carrot salad with mayo), a green salad, pão de queijo (Brazilian cheese bread) and coxinha (Brazilian hors d'oeuvres). We would have Panettone but I had been eating one slice a day for two weeks. Yum.

Each year we prepare our hearts for Christmas way more than we prepare other things. Santa was never a topic of conversation at our house. Our kids are too little and decades from now I want them to remember Jesus above everything else. I remember when it was just my husband and I for Christmas. Our table keeps getting more children as the years go by (and boy, can they eat!). Next year with the help of God we will set another place at the table for the baby I am carrying now. I am in a season of waiting and preparation for this baby. I keep wondering that Mary must have felt the same feelings: the joy of having a child, seeing her table getting filled with children, a family being formed. What an amazing season of reflection - and eating - Christmas is!

Christmas Decades from Now

2011-12-26T11:33:00.001-05:00

I reflect a lot before, during and after Christmas. I reflect on the Holy Scriptures as well as the culture surrounding me. Here are a few of my thoughts:

• Jesus had the best birth announcement ever. I don't think that the cards I send out, videos I make and the small town newspaper announcements can beat the grandioseness of heaven joining earth in celebration.

• Christmas is a season of giving, not doubt about that. I wonder if we will be generous year-round. Time is the most precious gift of all.

• When you look back at all the preparations you made for the season, would you change anything? I wonder what will really make a difference 15, 30 years from now. Is it the deal you got on your gifts? Is it the food you ate? Is it about family coming together? What if we start preparing for Christmas with the fact that our priority should be that which makes a difference decades from now.

I pray you had a great Christmas. Christ was born. That my friends, is what really matters to me.

Family Gatherings: Growing

2011-12-19T18:33:00.002-05:00

"I think by adulthood most people understand that holidays and anniversaries are not always as easy or as happy as we are led to believe. Even a close-knit, healthy family has its share of dysfunction riding above the underlying joy. As we grow and mature, we hopefully become better able to work out our differences, establish our own personal boundaries, and love each other through our humanity. We learn the gift is giving, more so than receiving. We learn that our families are our heritage, where we come from, but not necessarily where we are going." Ryann Roth, Mental Health Professional

I love the opening of today's Blog post at Ryann's Blog Creative Families. I look back over the years and I can relate to the scenario: it's Christmas and I am feeling apprehensive about family gatherings. My uneasiness has changed over years but it was either about unresolved issues with extended family or dreading the amount of weight I gain over the holidays. Trust me, I know all the Scripture references for loving one another. The application is the tricky part. Just because my heart is changed about a matter it doesn't mean that a whole family culture will change. I see two clear options: stay miserable and think things will never change or mature as I face each situation the best way I can. Before most Christmas gatherings I did a lot of preparation as well as had friends praying for me while I was at the gathering. I chose to believe that each time things were going to improve, no matter what. I found a lot of inspiration in friends who had similar situations to what I was going through, whether they had changed their eating lifestyle or found a way to love their families through differences. I appreciate Ryann's thoughts on families and holidays because I agree that I am to honor and love my family through our humanity. I don't know if you are headed to an uneasy family gathering this season. If you do, remember that you are really headed to a growth opportunity. I encourage you to pray and seek support from caring friends who know your situation well. A Merry Christmas starts inside of you. I wish you the best this season!

3 Dream Vacations

2011-12-16T12:47:00.001-05:00

I have been blessed to visit fantastic places in the world but I still have so many places to see. Some of these places are fun to visit with the whole family but I am guessing that others may only be possible as a couple's getaway. Here are my 3 Dream Vacations:

1. Orient Express • I've watched enough movies and documentaries about this amazing trip. I found out you can go to a series of places but I'd have to go from Paris to Istanbul as I often see it on TV. This is a Zeke and Cintia trip. I don't see myself changing diapers and missing a lot of the trip. We may have to wait for this one as a 25th wedding anniversary gift or something.

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2. East Africa • I have been to Zimbabwe and I want to continue to explore the continent. I would love to see West Africa as well. I have a friend from the Congo, I can't wait to see that country as well. I just want to go back, see the land, meet the people and help them in the name of Jesus Christ.

3. Mauritius • One of my friends from Grad School is from there. The place is amazingly beautiful, check it out for yourself.

There are so many other places I'd like to see. The thing we try to do is go to Brasil then travel abroad somewhere else, so I make sure I see my family often. I wonder what are some of the places you'd like like to visit and why.

2011 Review

2011-12-14T09:31:00.005-05:00

1. What did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before? I wrote an eBook and started my own Media Consulting Business.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?  I don't do resolutions but I did a vlog series called A Resolution Worth Keeping where I shared a few of the areas worth improving. I can say that by the grace of God I am still making progress.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?  Yes, my older sister. I have a gorgeous niece!
4. Did anyone close to you die?  Yes, we said goodbye to Ms. Minnie.
5. What countries did you visit? Unfortunately, none.
6. What would you like to have in 2012 that you lacked in 2011? Because of our recent move, I am looking for mentors as well as friends. I appreciate your prayers in that area.
7. What dates from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? My last Sunday at New Covenant Church. That community means so much to my family and I. Saying goodbye was difficult but it was also the plan of God for us. My N.C. family is forever branded in my heart and soul.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?  Personally I was blessed to make a smooth transition from NC to TX. It was important to me that my family felt like our nest was cozy during this peculiar time in life.
9. What was your biggest failure? Not being able to forgive quicker.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury? No, thanks be to God.
11. What was the best thing you bought? Whatever I bought doesn't compare to the awesome gift my husband gave me this year.
12. Where did most of your money go? Giving and debt reduction.
13. What did you get really excited about? I often get very excited about my husband's and kid's birthdays and achievements. I am thankful to God for allowing us to enjoy abundant life.
14. What song will always remind you of 2011? Faith, Faith, Faith ( a song my son learned a church).
15. Compared to this time last year, are you: 
• happier or sadder? Happier
• thinner or fatter? Pregnant
• richer or poorer? Richer because knowing Christ gives me true wealth.
16. What do you wish you’d done more of?  Forgive quicker.
17. What do you wish you’d done less of?  Worry.
18. How did you spend Christmas? At home with my awesome family.
19. What was your favorite TV program? 60 Minnutes

20. What were your favorite books of the year? The Holy Bible and The Help.

21. What was your favorite music from this year?  I have to say that all the songs that Zeke wrote for Dorinda Clark-Cole's new project: This is Why, Holy One and We Believe.
22. What were your favorite films of the year? The Help
23. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I had the honor to have lunch with my mentor, Dr. Shirley Harvey, at Chelsea's Tea Room in Asheville and I celebrated with my family the rest of the day.
24. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? My year was pretty awesome but less worry and anxiety always adds to the satisfaction level.
25. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011? Close to Non-existent. I didn't pay as much attention to fashion til July. Now that I am expecting I get to change my concept a bit.
26. What kept you sane? Jesus, Zeke, prayer, laughter and exercise.
27. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011.  There is freedom in trusting God with all my heart and not leaning unto my own understanding. I also learned that God has amazing plans for me and He is able to use me for His glory where I am. Another lesson learned is that there is power in contentment. I could go on and on. This was an amazing year of learning and I am thankful.
Related Post: 2010 Review

Pregnancy: the first 12 Weeks

2011-12-13T12:13:00.000-05:00

I am so blessed to be expecting my third child. I'm knocking on 12 weeks and feeling MUCH more like myself again. Although this is my third time nurturing life, everything seems so brand new. Because we moved to Texas almost 4 months ago, we are starting everything new from a new house to new doctors, friends, you name it. Here's how these first 12 weeks have been:

New Symptoms

Morning sickness was fierce. As soon as I got the "Pregnant" on the test, I got exhausted and the morning sickness turned to all day sickness. I've had all day sickness before but this time was very intense. I was very tired too. All I wanted to do was eat, turn to my side and sleep. Thank God my husband (who always helps me) took great care of things around the house for me. I just didn't have the energy. My kids are awesome and still nap so I napped when they did, which is a huge blessing.

New Podcast

I had the honor to be a guest panelist at Pregtastic Podcast. I have been a listener for years, so being a part of the conversation was amazing. You can listen to the show here.

New Doctor

This was a huge step. I prayed that God would lead me to someone who would do a great job. So far I am very pleased with the doctor, nurses and the whole practice. I took a peek at the hospital already and I like the facilities. I went there for some high blood pressure related tests. Thank God I am very healthy in every way.

New Weight

I have gained and lost weight during this pregnancy. I gained when morning sickness was almost impossible and I am losing now. I decided to revamp my eating habits and add more fruits and vegetables. I eat all day, mostly what's good for me. I heard that this is common for some moms: you eat so healthy you lose weight. Before you crucify me, remember I am under medical supervision and I like to eat. The baby will continue to grow and the weight loss will stop at some point. I am just happy that all the extra fruits and vegetables are making feel like a million bucks.

New Exercise

My exercise habits suck right now. My challenge is to get back to regular exercise, most days of the week. Not being fit really hurts, I know cause last time I wasn't walking as much as I should.

I am thankful to God for a supporting family. Pregnancy is blessing and I ask that you continue to pray for a healthy, blessed journey for us. Have an amazing day!

Preparing for Christmas

2011-12-12T14:37:00.002-05:00

Christmas is a season of preparation. We prepare our homes, we stock our pantries and we prepare gifts for our loved ones. We are often being asked how we're doing with our preparations and the answers vary but are about the same. I wonder what would happen if we changed the types of questions we ask this time of year. What if the main question we got was "Is your heart ready for Christmas?"

Another good questions is, "how do you go about preparing your heart for Christmas?" I believe that focusing on the true meaning of Christmas is fundamental. For mothers with small kids, it's important to use repetition before, during and after the Christmas season.

Right now my kids are learning about Christmas at church, so what I do is repeat their lesson during the week. I also use their kid's Bible (and let me tell you, the illustrations are awesome) to tell a little bit of the story each day.

As far as my own heart, what I try to do is focus by reading about the Christmas story from the different Gospels and also the related passages in the old Testament. It's important for me to read it for myself an remember what an amazing gift Jesus is to me.

Now that I'm pregnant, the Christmas story has special meaning. I have written about the story of Mary and Elisabeth during my While I Wait series and I reminded of their story during this special season.

I wonder: how do you prepare your heart for this season?

Mais uma Bênção a Caminho

2011-12-09T08:59:00.001-05:00

Estamos gratos a Deus por mais um/a bebê a caminho! Dessa vez o nascimento será em Junho de 2012 com a ajuda de Deus. Orem por uma gravidez e bebê saudáveis a abençoados queridos amigos e amigas.
Resolvemos esperar bastante pra fazer o anúncio. O plano foi de colocarmos no cartão de natal, e desse jeito o pessoal ia descobrir quando recebesse. O problema é que assim que descobri eu comecei a mudar muito. Minha barriga já está aparecendo, eu estava MUITO cansada. Outra coisa interessante é que o pessoal da igreja começou perguntando se eu estava grávida, e eu disse que sim. A grande maioria dos nossos amigos descobriram no aniversário do meu esposo. Ele estava tão feliz e resolveu contar a boa notícia. Fizemos um vídeo anunciando.

Estou muito grata a Deus por essa bênção. Filhos são herança, dádivas do Senhor (Salmo 127:3) e sou muito grata a Deus por essas bênçãos. Oro pra que você também seja muito abençoado por Deus nesse dia. Obrigada por compartilhar nossa alegria.

The Battle for the Seed

2011-12-08T08:32:00.001-05:00

³ “Listen! A farmer went out to plant some seed. ⁴ As he scattered it across his field, some of the seed fell on a footpath, and the birds came and ate it. ⁵ Other seed fell on shallow soil with underlying rock. The seed sprouted quickly because the soil was shallow. ⁶ But the plant soon wilted under the hot sun, and since it didn’t have deep roots, it died. ⁷Other seed fell among thorns that grew up and choked out the tender plants so they produced no grain. ⁸ Still other seeds fell on fertile soil, and they sprouted, grew, and produced a crop that was thirty, sixty, and even a hundred times as much as had been planted!” ⁹ Then he said,“Anyone with ears to hear should listen and understand.”

¹⁴ The farmer plants seed by taking God’s word to others. ¹⁵ The seed that fell on the footpath represents those who hear the message, only to have Satan come at once and take it away. ¹⁶ The seed on the rocky soil represents those who hear the message and immediately receive it with joy. ¹⁷ But since they don’t have deep roots, they don’t last long. They fall away as soon as they have problems or are persecuted for believing God’s word.¹⁸ The seed that fell among the thorns represents others who hear God’s word, ¹⁹ but all too quickly the message is crowded out by the worries of this life, the lure of wealth, and the desire for other things, so no fruit is produced. ²⁰ And the seed that fell on good soil represents those who hear and accept God’s word and produce a harvest of thirty, sixty, or even a hundred times as much as had been planted!”

Mark 4:3-9;14-20 (New Living Translation)

This is a parable that I've heard all my life but it came to light once again last night. I was experiencing a bit of fear and I was reminded not to let the birds take away the seeds that were planted in my life (see verse 4). This morning I went back and read it and it dawned on me that 4 things happen when we hear the Word of God: Satan snatches it away; a shallow character makes it dry up; stress & anxiety choke it to death OR it produces massive harvests of 30, 60 or 100 times more of what was planted. Every time the Word of God goes forth this battle starts. We all want to have the "good ground" kind of heart but boy do we struggle living in this world! We all have worries, we all have the temptation to receive it with joy and forget about it because of anxiety. One thing is for sure: God's Word is true and it always works (Isaiah 55:11). The choice is always mine as far as how I'm going to care for this seed: will I leave it vulnerable to birds? Will I not cultivate my character? Will I let stress choke it? OR will I water it and nurture it so the harvest will be massive? The choice is up to me.

The Surprise Party

2011-12-05T21:38:00.001-05:00

It's no secret that I love Zeke very much. One of the things we do as a family is really celebrate each other's birthdays in a big way. This year I decided to throw him a surprise party. These are never easy to pull, especially depending on the number of people involved. I asked for the help of our church choir - who did a marvelous job keeping the secret - and it was a hit! First of all, he did not suspect anything. The day of the party he said he thought that maybe we were going to a restaurant and some people would be there but he did not expect the kind of party he had for his 32nd birthday. Here's his surprised/happy expression. The kids were pretty surprised as well:

I believe that every birthday deserves amazing cake, so here is what we gave to Zeke:

Check out the DJ in the back! This was a first for us. I don't think we can have another party without a DJ. After dinner (potluck style) everyone literally jumped into the dance floor! It was so much fun!

I asked a friend to help me pick out the decorations, and I think they worked out pretty well. Another interesting thing about this surprise is that I never lied to Zeke about where I was going or what I was doing. That was very important to me cause I was ready to spill the beans if he asked any direct questions. For example, he always encouraged me to go out and stay out as long as I wanted, so the day of the party I told him I was going to Costco with a friend (true) and he was actually excited we were hanging out for a long time. What we were doing was putting the decor together for the party.

Now that the birthday season is over for 2011 it's time to focus on Christmas. We have everything we need, I'm just lacking energy to do it - where are you second trimester?

Stay Away from Negativity

2011-11-30T13:11:00.001-05:00

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Happy Birthday Zeke!

2011-11-29T09:30:00.001-05:00

Today is Zeke's Birthday. He's the best gift I have ever received this side of heaven. We decided to share all our joy through this video with you. Enjoy!

Curiosidades dos Estates: Sexta-Feira Preta

2011-11-28T11:40:00.001-05:00

Créditos

Black Friday (Sexta-feira Preta) é o dia depois do dia de Ações de Graça. O nome é por que as lojas ficam no vermelho o ano todo até essa data. Muita coisa boa entra em promoção. Esse ano o povo estava atrás de TVs, computadores, etc. A tradição é que o pessoal tem a ceia em casa e a meia noite as lojas abrem com as promoções. Muita gente entra na fila na quarta ou quinta pra ser o primeiro a entrar. Ano passado um empregado de uma loja morreu abrindo a porta porque a multidão não pode ser contida. Esse ano uma pessoa espremeu uma mistura de pimenta e água nos outros pra poder ser o primeiro a comprar um video game. Muita gente aqui também espera as promoções pra comprar roupas, brinquedos e comprar os presentes de natal que faltam. Eu nunca participei dessa tradição americana. Muitos anos atrás eu e uma amiga esperamos até o meio dia pra comprar um scanner. Agora que tenho criança pequena, fico em casa aproveitado a família e os amigos. O bom dessa terra é que tudo que está em promoção agora vai voltar a estar em promoção de novo. Depois do natal, tudo volta em promoção de novo. E se eu perder aquela oportunidade, é so ir na loja do Exército da Salvação e comprar tudo por uma pechincha. Pode crer que no final do ano o pessoal doa muita coisa boa pra caridades como o Goodwill ou o Exército da Salvação. Uma tradição nova é a "Cyber Monday" onde muita coisa vai em promoção na internet. A tradição continua hoje com o pessoal fazendo compras online. Uma boa semana pra você!!!

Saying Goodbye to Ms. Minnie

2011-11-26T09:14:00.001-05:00

This week we said goodbye to Zeke's grandmother, Ms. Minnie. She was 94 years-old. I never had a conversation with her but when I think about her life, I think about this verse:

"With long life I will satisfy him, And show him My salvation." Psalm 91:16

When you're not able to talk to someone, it's important to listen to the things not being said. It's also important to observe their surroundings. Ms. Minnie's story goes beyond the words she could say for herself.

I observed that Ms. Minnie enjoyed good health for most of her life. Zeke told me she used to walk a lot. During her last days her medical staff told the family she was tough as nails. I noticed her skin was smooth in the face. I was very impressed with that because your skin tells a lot about what's going on inside.

I heard her sweet voice once during a visit. Zeke was talking to her and we got it on video. I'm excited that our kids will be able to hear it in years to come. I noticed she had nice decorations in her room. She lived in this particular place for 13 years. There were photos, cards, signs that she was loved and cared for. Her surroundings told me she was not alone, there was a family, a life history behind her.

My husband has many memories of visiting her at her home. He told me about the kind of coffee she liked, the type of 'story' she watched on TV. I marvel at pictures of him as a young boy hanging out with grandma. What's unspoken often reveal the love and the bond that we have with our ancestors.

I never had a conversation with Ms. Minnie but I know she buried her 96 year-old mother. I know she honored her mother and her days were prolonged in the land which the Lord gave her.

My husband's family honored Ms. Minnie til the end of her 94 years of life. Even my first born went to the nursing home to visit her. Because of Ms. Minnie there are now many great grandchildren.

I believe her legacy should not be forgotten. She will live on as the matriarch who loved, cared, honored and lived a long and satisfying life.

This Thanksgiving I honor the life of a woman I never talk to but who spoke volumes to me. Thank you God for the life of Ms. Minnie.

From the 2010 Archives

2011-11-25T15:24:00.001-05:00

Happy Thanksgiving

2011-11-24T20:05:00.001-05:00

Whether your circumstances are perfect or not, remember to be thankful in everything. I pray that you had a blessed Thanksgiving day! Keep pressing on my friend!

Guest Panelist at Pregtastic!

2011-11-22T18:20:00.001-05:00

Hello! I have been a Pregtastic listener for years and I had the honor to join their panel for their latest Podcast. You can listen to it here

The Humility Learning Circle

2011-11-22T09:13:00.001-05:00

A few months ago I was told by someone close to me that I needed to do some work on Humility. I have found that I had to come to terms with the fact that this is a journey and it's okay to make mistakes as long as I am focusing on Progress. I can identify 4 steps in the Humility Learning Circle:

1. Test • Everyone's level of Humility is tested every now and then. Your way to deal with the tests reveals a lot about where you are in your journey. Can you think of the last time your level of Humility was tested?

2. Learn • Whether you pass or fail there's a lot to be learned in your journey. Don't stop on the pat on the back or the feeling of disappointment. Look for the next step which is usually when you apply the lessons learned.
3. Calibrate • All the adjustments I make when it comes to humility are based in Jesus. He says in Matthew 11:29 "Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me, for I am gentle (meek) and humble (lowly) in heart, and you will find rest (relief and ease and refreshment and recreation and blessed quiet) for your souls." This verse is amazing because it tells me that as I take on Humility I find Rest, Relief, Ease, Refreshment and Recreation. True Humility elevates the spirit.
4. Live On • I know I will be tested again and this circle will be repeated but the good thing is that once I embrace Jesus' example of Humility, I can detach my worth and value from what I do and attach it to who I am in Christ. Joyce Meyer said "a humble person is a happy person, not under pressure. They have no need to impress, they are completely who they are. They simply want to be the best version of themselves." What a great way to live!

I wonder if you ever identified this Humility Circle in your life. Which stage is the most challenging for you? The opposite of humility is Pride. Check out the 50 Fruits of Pride.

Housework, my way

2011-11-21T11:39:00.001-05:00

Today I thought I'd take a personal moment and tell you about housework. I have been a pretty organized person. I think I stepped up a notch when I had kids. Motherhood brought about wonderful things and one of them was the need to be organized. Don't get me wrong, my files need to be organized, my desk needs to be cleaned (again) but I found the nice balance of being organized enough to find what I need when I need it.

My first goal is never to get overwhelmed. Freaking out is counter productive. I often head that way and that's when I say 'my life didn't used to be this way.' I repent for not doing what i know I should and I just take small steps. I bought an hour glass (I love those things) and I time myself. I say: I will clean my office for 1 hour. It's amazing the amount of work that it gets done. Small steps work.

Another thing that seems to help with the kids closets is to simply finish what I start. I wash and immediately hang their clothes. No need for desperation, we can find clean clothes when we need them as well as diapers (no potty training has happened yet) and other supplies. Buying a caddy for the bathroom has helped me keep their grooming tools organized. It's the little things that make a huge difference when I'm trying to bathe, feed and nurture.

When it comes to house cleaning, my theory is: if it doesn't get dirty, there's less need for me to clean. We use some rooms less than others, which makes cleaning easier. I don't follow a cleaning routine but what I try to do is that my house is 'guest ready' often. I am training the kids to pick up toys after they play and that's a lot of help. I try to have dishes under control and it seems that if I do, everything is much easier. They key here is to set a goal and finishing what I started.

I am often asked how in the world I have time to take care of two kids 2 and under, blog, take care of a house and lead worship at church. The key is really to know what the priorities are. Progress, not perfection is my goal in this area of life. I need to point out that my husband helps me a lot as well. I am very thankful for Zeke. Our house doesn't look like it could be in the cover of Martha Stewart Living but it is a place of peace, love and it's 'livable.' I've had enough heartache freaking out about dishes that need to be done. I have decided to seek God, take care of family and work on progress and not perfection when it comes to this house. Finishing what I start seems to work for me. How do you balance your house work and your other duties?

Ações de Graça

2011-11-18T16:42:00.001-05:00

Semana que vem comemoramos o dia de Ações de Graça aqui nos Estados Unidos. As famílias se reúnem e compartilham uma ceia e agradecem a Deus pelas bênçãos recebidas. Temos poucos feriados aqui (comparado com o Brasil), mas acho que esse é bem especial. Acho que é muito legal de um país inteiro parar para agradecer a Deus pelas bênçãos recebidas. Esse feriado também me leva a pensar na minha própria vida: quantas vezes paro para agradecer a Deus? Pedir todo mundo sabe, ainda mais no final do ano. Todos queremos muito dinheiro no bolso, saúde pra dar e vender, certo? Ouvi dizer que se a gente parar pra agradecer a Deus pelo que já temos, a nossa vida seria bem melhor. A Bíblia nos diz que devemos dar graças a Deus por que Ele é bom e a sua misericórdia dura para sempre. Vamos tentar agradecer mais pelas bênçãos recebidas? Um bom exercício é começar sua oração agradecendo a Deus por no mínimo 3 coisas específicas que Ele fez por você. O seu coração vai se alegrar e sua vida vai ser mais abundante. Bom final-de-semana!

Friendly Reminder: Don't Give Up!

2011-11-17T09:23:00.001-05:00

We all have purpose in life and I came to treasure the ones I get along the way. It might come from a person who knows me well or a complete stranger. Encouragement is always welcome. Yesterday my husband and I received some great news. In the midst of rejoicing the answered prayers, I couldn’t help but remember all the people who shared their concerns with me. It was tempting to have a heavy heart because of all the needs but I decided to believe that God is willing and able to answer those prayers too.
This morning I sent out a tweet that summarized my latest thoughts:

#Goodmorning! Keep Believing. If it hasn't happened, it will. Your character is getting stronger & your faith firmer. Don't give up!

This is my friendly reminder to you: Do not give up! Even if you take a small step it is still Progress. Remember that most great things come with great effort and you are well able to finish your race. I encourage you to finish strong. Have a day filled with courage!

Encouragement: the Social Experiment

2011-11-16T14:44:00.001-05:00

You don't have to be a big philanthropists to make a world of difference in lives. Pay attention to the ordinary people you see each day outside of your home: cashiers, the people who work out next to you, policemen, etc. They all need more Encouragement. When you give this free gift, what you are really giving is inspiration with courage, spirit and confidence. I conduct a "social experiment" that proves to be quite fun. I try not to think about myself so much when I'm checking out in a store but turn my attention to the cashier. They're often in a bad mood. Instead of treating them as less them and making judgements, I try to look for a way to inject courage in their day. The same works with wait staff and other people who serve us in a regular basis. Here are 3 ways to Encourage:
• Ask Questions - people are often tired and discouraged about how long they have to be at work. I usually encourage them by saying "good thing you're making money" which is a huge blessing if you compare this with unemployment. I also try to be encouraging by hoping that their day will get better.
• Offer Compliments - these work every time. I find something I can genuinely compliment and I see a person's sense of appreciation grow right in front of me. I often tell people they're doing a good job which also changes their mood for the better. Some of us are often thinking 'it's their job, why should I compliment them?' but what they're really doing is contributing to our lives. If people are doing a good job, be sure they should know. I am certain that they don't get awards every day for working but Words of Affirmation are worth so much more.
• Say "Thank You" - There is so much power in thanksgiving. You are really affirming the person when you express your gratitude. Your thoughtfulness may make the difference between a horrible and a great day for someone.
I have been a receiver of these 3 ways of Encouragement and I feel compeled to give them freely because of the difference they make in my life. Next time you are out being served, take yourself out of your mind and offer one of these 3 Ways of Encouragement.

Progress, not Perfection

2011-11-15T16:14:00.001-05:00

The more I think about my life, the more I want to reason and find the God purpose behind the events of this year. I started the year with a whole month of videos, then I shared my Black Life Lessons and the fact that My Kids Don't Know we're Black. In the summer we shared the Big News that we were moving to Houston and we have been here for 4 months now. What an amazing journey! It's impossible to separate my life from God's design for me. Every detail, every change, nothing is a surprise for Him. Every now and then I look back and wonder, what's next? This week I came to realize that even when I can't see past the next load of dirty clothes, God has amazing plans to give me hope and a great future. He thinks the same about you. The heart and purpose of this blog is to give you Hope. I pray that 2011 was a good year for you. Remember that there is still time this year to make your dreams come true. My thought for today is to aim for progress, not perfection. I pray that you are progressing my friend. Stay strong in your life journey!

The Accessible Holiday Gift Guide

2011-11-14T09:52:00.001-05:00

Today I want you to think about gift giving in a different way. We all can't buy the latest toys and gadgets byt these 5 gifts are accessible to all. Enjoy!
Yourself: Love • when you truly love yourself you change. Your health is better, your priorities change, your whole life changes. It's also a great idea to Love yourself more so that you can give more love to others.
Extended Family: Quick Forgiveness • "Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive]." Colossians 3:13 (Amplified) Jesus never hesitated in forgiving people. Forgiveness brings freedom. This holiday, decide to forgive quickly and enjoy the freedom that it brings. Make quick forgiveness a lifestyle.
Kids: Time • Time is the best gift you can give to anyone. Investing time in your children makes an impact in their lives for generations and it impacts yours in a deep way because you will be enriched as well.
Spouse: Attention • Do you really pay attention to your spouse? Do you pause and attentively listen? Paying more attention increases your intimate knowledge of the other person. You hear what's said and more importantly, what's not being said. More precious than bling, attention will fill a love tank like nothing of monetary value can do.
World: Prayers • In all matters out there there are critics, experts and people who know it all. What the world really needs are more prayers. Take a quick assessment: do you criticize more than you pray? Prayers for peace and justice are so needed but we can only do it when we take off the 'all things expert' cap.
I hope this lists help you think of the Holidays in a different way. You'll be amazed at how many people will take one of these gifts over monetary ones. These are gifts that will last.

A Fresh Look

2011-11-11T07:08:00.001-05:00

It's a new day. I have brand new opportunities I cannot miss. I can start afresh, I can take a new approach. I can forget about the past and focus on a future of hope. It's a new day. I realize that if I don't have an agenda for today, others are more than willing to set it for me. I know my priorities, I have a heart full of love and that makes me unstoppable.
Take a fresh look at your day. Don't dread it but remember that you are the new you. All it takes are small steps to get there. What can you do today?
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Panhandling from the Heart

2011-11-09T19:49:00.001-05:00

We have all seen a familiar scene in larger towns. People holding signs by traffic lights. I read the signs (after making sure my doors are locked) and look for the need. I wonder if there's a government agency or church out there that can help more effectively. As a journalist, I also look for grammar and ponctuation. I've had the most fun lately looking at those signs that way.

I noticed that all of us hold signs in the traffic lights of life. We display them as we work, as we listen to people and even as we are interacting in social media. I have recently seen an elderly lady mistreating a person in a gardening store. The sign she was holding clearly read "BITTER." Some of the status updates I read are being typed by friends who hold sign that says "ANGER," not to be confused by "Passion" about some issue.

What's inside easily spills out for all to see. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks (Luke 6:45). I'm not advocating that we all get our issues together and start being perfect overnight. What I do advocate is that we take a good look at our signs and take small steps to improve them. From "Insecure" to "Seeking Wisdom." From "Bitter" to "Helpful." From "Victim" to "Overcomer." I believe you have it inside of you my friend. Make sure all that good stuff spills out.

Have you taken a good look at the sign your holding in the traffic light of life? What does it say?

Juicing 101

2011-11-09T06:36:00.000-05:00

In this episode of Simply Cintia Radio, we discuss the Juicing 101. My guest is Jackie Vick of Jackie’s Juicing Journey.
In this episode Jackie and I talk about:
• The benefits of Juicing;
• How did Jackie juiced for 40 days;
• Small steps towards healthy living and More!
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Blogging for Non-Writers

2011-11-08T06:24:00.001-05:00

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Let's face it, not everyone is a writer but everyone can agree that blogging can take your business or non-profit to a new level. I have a few ideas for those of you who are not writers but feel called to have a great blog.
1. Find an fr-editor - a fr-editor is a friend who is an editor. Small Businesses often do not have a huge marketing budget, so that's when your friends come in to help. You can also find interns who need the experience. Remember that an editor is your best friend when it comes to writing.
2. Give Vlogging a Try - some business owners say it better than they write it. Take advantage of the growing popularity of digital videos and turn your traditional blog into a Vlog. I always advise my clients who are Potters to invest in video blogging. Photos of a firing process for example are good, but a video of the artist explaining the process is amazing. Artist also know that people love the story behind the art. Video can offer amazing results.
3. Take a Creative Writing Class - Maybe you would like to improve your writing skills and taking a class is always a great investment. No need to enroll for 4 years, a writing class can offer the skills you need at a quicker, yet effective pace.
I hope these tips will help you get a jump start at drastically improving the quality of your blog.
Related Posts:
• Finding Photos for your Blog
• How to Find Blog Post Ideas

Parents are Leaders

2011-11-07T10:33:00.002-05:00

What you do today has an impact in the lives of your children and the generations after them. You are a Leader in the Home Front. You exhibit leadership skills and you teach them to your children every day. I know it is challenging to see that right in the middle of diaper changes and continuous clean up. The fact is, you know just how to build strength into the spirits of your children and your impact will benefit them for a lifetime and beyond.

I invite you to take a Survey that will help me better understand the characteristics of Home Front Leaders everywhere. Take this quick survey here

Thanks and have a great day!

Despertador

2011-11-03T08:27:00.001-04:00

Créditos

Muita gente conhece e usa esse objeto. Hoje eu quero te desafiar a olhar pra ele de uma maneira diferente. Use-o como um "portador de oportunidade". Muita gente olha pra ele de mau humor porque não dormiu bem. O importante é lembrar que Deus dá a todos os seres humanos 24 horas, e quando acordamos prontos pra usá-las da melhor maneira possível, esse objeto se torna um portador de oportunidades sem limite. Por exemplo, ouço muita gente reclamar das horas que se passa no trânsito. Se você estiver no ônibus, que tal aproveitar essas horas pra aprender algo novo ou ouvir algo que alimente sua alma?

No dia que se chama "hoje" encontram-se oportunidades de se fazer muita coisa boa. Quando paramos de apontar o dedo e tomamos responsabilidade pela nossa vida, Deus nos dá os desejos do nosso coração (Salmo 37:4). Do nosso levantar ao nosso deitar, Deus sabe e vê tudo:

O Senhor conhece bem tudo que, dia a dia, fazem os que andam na rectidão, e lhes dará uma recompensa eterna. Salmo 37:18

Meu desafio pra você é de mudar o jeito que você olha pro despertador. Pare de colocar a culpa em outros, entregue o seu caminho a Deus e aproveite 24 horas de oportunidades a sua frente. Bom dia amigos e amigas!

The Expert in your Life

2011-11-02T07:09:00.003-04:00

If you do no know what your priorities are, the world around you is more than ready to set it for you. Know what your needs and wants are and match them to your priorities. Today is the perfect day to be the primary expert in your own life. No one should know you better than you. The people who have "all the solutions" should complement what you have already identified through prayer, meditation and some good ole thinking about your own life. Be the best expert you'll ever have in your own life. That's my challenge for you today.
When you are the expert in your own life you:

• Know what your Minimum is;

• Master the Art of Saying No;

• Live an Excuse-Free Life.

1 Year Ago on SimplyCintia.com:
• 5 Ways to Pray more with your Children
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The Art of Saying No

2011-11-01T05:00:00.000-04:00

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Some people are better at saying No than others. The fact is that this skill is needed in order for you to take control of many areas of your own life. Let's face it, everyone out there, even strangers, have a schedule for you. No is what separates you from out of control to having authority over your life. Here are 3 keys to mastering the Art of Saying No.
1 • Know what your priorities are - if you don't have a clear direction to your life, it becomes easier to take on everyone else's projects. Know your priorities by heart. Write them down if you have to but make sure that all you do in life matches your priorities.
2 • Be honest - For some reason we are afraid people are not going to accept our truth. The fact is that honesty is always the best answer. You don't have to over explain yourself, just be honest. You will be amazed at how people honor honesty.
3 • Deliver your answer with care - part of the art of saying No includes respecting the person receiving the No. Deliver your answer without anger in your lips. If you have to tell them you'll think about it before saying the final answer, do that. Part of the Art of saying No includes being considerate to the person receiving the No.
I am aware that we say no to people and to things. If you need to say to laziness, you still need to know what your priorities are. If you are saying no to unhealthy living, you must be honest with yourself and recognize that in all honesty, this unhealthy lifestyle will only lead you down. I invite you to take a quick survey of your life. What are the things you need to say NO to? One last thing, "No" is a complete sentence.

The "Emmaus" Kind of Friendship

2011-10-31T05:00:00.000-04:00

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Luke 24:13-32 tells us about the Walk to Emmaus. Today, I have the privilege to tell you about my heart's desire for the Emmaus Kind of Friendship.

"So it was, while they conversed and reasoned, that Jesus Himself drew near and went with them." (Luke 24:15 NKJV)

I dream of friendships where this exact thing happens. While we are conversing and reasoning, Jesus Himself draws near and goes with us. The two people in the Bible were talking about events and they were actually sad, they had lost hope. I am amazed at how God cares so much about us that He is with us in such ordinary moments of life. While we're walking and talking, there He is.

In the Bible story, their eyes were restrained. My hope and prayer is that my eyes are never restrained, that I may recognize and see Jesus always.

Oh the amazing things that happen when Jesus is part of friendships! Seeing the Scriptures through His eyes, constraining Him to stay, breaking bread together. This speaks of real fellowship with God while in friendship with another.

“Did not our heart burn within us while He talked with us on the road, and while He opened the Scriptures to us?” (Luke 24:15, 32 NKJV)
My prayer is to keep my heart open and attentive to the presence of God while sharing in friendship with others.

• Do you have an Emmaus kind of friendship? Please tell me about it.

Curiosidades dos Estates: Vizinhos

2011-10-28T06:50:00.001-04:00

Leaders in the Home Front: Survey

2011-10-27T04:30:00.000-04:00

• Click here to take this quick Survey.
Leaders in the Home Front series:
1 • Organization
2 • Turning Frustration into Gratification

Dayspring Recordable StoryBook Giveaway

2011-10-26T08:05:00.005-04:00

SimplyCintia.com is giving away this amazing recordable storybook by DaySpring! Bedtime Prayers and Promises is the sweetest book ever. All of my family lives at least 12 hours away from us, so this book is amazing way to keep in touch with family. I really enjoyed all the prayers in the book and the possibility of having the sweet voice of a loved one reading it to the kids. This is an amazing Christmas gift!
Dayspring is giving the book for free, all you have to pay for is Shipping. Here's how you can win:
• Leave a comment telling me why reading to your kids is important;
This giveaway is open til Tuesday, October 1 at 12 noon (EST).
Disclaimer: I was given this book by Dayspring Corp. in exchange for my opinion of the book. App opinions are my own.

8 Days of Cooking: What's for Dinner?

2011-10-25T08:11:00.001-04:00

I had grand plans when I started my #Whatsfordinner Challenge. This is what actually happened:

Arroz de Forno & Salad

Zeke fixed baked pasta with salad & Garlic Bread

Potato & cabbage cream soup

A brunch out: chicken and waffles

Lentils and cornbread

Baked chicken, green beans and rice

• I was able to use ingredients from my own pantry
• I became more methodical about planning dinner foods
• We saved big time on going out to eat
• We ate together more often
• The kids had the most fun trying new foods
It was a great experience and I look forward to continuing to add variety to our 'rice and beans' kind of menu.
What about you, what are you cooking for dinner tonight?

Baby Bunching

2011-10-24T05:00:00.000-04:00

Curiosidade dos Estates: Ballet de Houston

2011-10-21T12:22:00.000-04:00

O bom de viver em cidade grande são as oportunidades culturais oferecidas aqui. Já que Houston é uma cidade de cultura e diversidade nós resolvemos ir ao Ballet em vez de ir ao cinema toda vez conseguimos uma babysitter pra tomar conta dos nossos filhos. Essa foi a nossa experiência:

Esse é o teatro onde o Ballet de Houston se apresenta. Achei a entrada dele impressionante. Quando eu entrei, fiquei de boca aberta com tanta beleza.

Ao subir a escada rolante você vem trabalhos de arte que te levam a entrada principal do teatro (pertinho do palco).

Nós pegamos o elevador e subimos pros acentos lá em cima. O preço deles é bem mais barato e altura é tremenda. Quase fiquei tonta, mas tudo bem. O legal é que de lá dá pra se ver os músicos tocando.

No Ballet de Houston só se pode tirar foto e filmar antes de depois da apresentação. O show que fomos assistir se chamava "Return of the Masters." O show foi bem contemporâneo se você comparar todo Ballet com o Lago dos Cisnes. Na última parte dois cantores participaram do show, o que foi bem legal. O bom de ter ido ao show foi que eles me mandaram 50% de disconto pra minha próxima entrada.
• Pra mais informações sobre o Ballet de Houston, visite o website deles.

Leaders in the Home Front: Turning Frustration into Gratification

2011-10-20T07:50:00.000-04:00

Frustration is “a deep chronic sense or state of insecurity and dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs.” (Merriam-Webster)
Leaders in the Home Front deal with frustration all the time. They also know how to coach others on how to revert the effects of frustration by simply encouraging their mentee to change their Perspective. You are denying your issue, you are not negating your feelings, you are simply changing the way way you see your situation. If you can see differently, you can gain a better approach to turn Frustration into Gratification. Here are 5 steps:

1. Rest • the best decisions in a frustrating situation will not come when your anxiety is elevated. Resting is a powerful weapon against frustration because of the rejuvenating power it brings to your mind. Your decision making abilities become sharper when you are rested.
2. Go for a Walk • Conditioning your body is one of the best ways of releasing frustration in a healthy way. You will also be amazed at the ideas that will come to your mind when you go for walk or a run.
3. Write it Down • if you can’t talk about it, write about it. Journaling will help you organize your ideas. Looking at your situation on paper may help you find a great solution.
4. Seek Counseling • Having someone reliable to talk to can help you release frustration and find Gratification in a healthy way. Good counselors are not there to be bias. They listen to you and help you find quality in your situation. It is wise to have great counselors in your life. (Demystifying Counseling Podcast)
5. Pray • Talking to God is refreshing to the soul. I find that even when my situation does not change, my heart does as I practice these 5 steps. Talking to God encourages me to have compassion for others who are going through similar situation. Compassion moves me to plant seeds of kindness in the lives of others.

Leaders who successfully turn Frustration into Gratification gain a keen awareness of how their organization can grow and be relevant in their area of influence. I challenge you not to internalize your frustration but recognize it is there and change your Perspective. Use any of the 5 keys to help you find Gratification. Remember than when you see differently there are no limits to what you can accomplish.

Previously in this series: Organization

Getting to Know You: Houston Ballet

2011-10-19T06:28:00.000-04:00

My bucket list is getting shorter: I had my first Houston date at the Houston Ballet. We got the most frugal of the ticket selections and sat all the way up top. I must confess that the height made me a little dizzy but it did not diminish the awe of the this great experience. Here's what to expect as you walk in to enjoy the Houston Ballet's performance:

Wortham Theather entrance

Parking • We got there right at the nick of time, the performance was starting soon. Valet parking for $10 outside of the theater was a great investment, specially because of all the construction in that area of town. The advantage of having your car practically waiting for you as the performance ended was also a plus.

The theater is gorgeous inside

Performance • Return of the Masters was a gorgeous performance. Unlike some of the more traditional productions it included two singers, which added a lot to the performance. It was also amazing to hear the orchestra playing. It was my first time hearing a live orchestra playing for a ballet. My husband and I both loved the production.

In the elevator

Length • I could not find any easy way to find out how long the performance was going to be, but we were there for close to 3 hours. I had a paid sitter, which was the reason why I needed to know what to expect.

View from the Balcony

Media • The Houston Ballet allows you to get photos and videos only before the performance or at the green room after the performance. They follow up with you by mail (we got 50% discount for the next performance) and they call you as well but I haven't been able to talk to them by phone. It would be more helpful if you had the option to choose between phone calls or e-mails. For this mother with young children, an e-mail will be a more effective way of communication.

I really enjoyed my experience at the Houston Ballet. I could tell they are really organized and they make sure you have an amazing experience all the way through. All the volunteers were very friendly and helpful.

I really appreciate everyone who worked or volunteered to make my experience a great one at the Houston Ballet. I'm looking forward to the holiday performances.

For more information on the Houston Ballet, go to their website.
• Other post in this series:
Houston Zoo [VIDEO]

Houston Social Media Breakfast [PHOTOS]

8 days of cooking

2011-10-18T05:00:00.000-04:00

This is Day 1 out of 8 days of my #WhatsforDinner Challenge. This is an effort to keep my menu creative and to save my stomach from mystery ingredients that are often added to foods I haven't prepared myself :)
My goal is to use ingredients from my pantry and recipes from the Epicurious App for iPad;
For day 1 I tried to make this recipe but I didn't have all the ingredients, so I came up with this instead:

Chicken Picadillo Soft Tacos

with a side of baked sweet potato fries

My entire family ate the food. We also had green beans and my daughter ate a lot of it (impressive!). I'm considering Day 1 a success. Instead of posting about food every day, I'll give you a day 4 update and a day 8 wrap up, how does that sound?

Have an amazing day and I hope you have time to cook at home and eat as a family.

• What are you cooking for dinner tonight?

Straight Talk on Hope

2011-10-17T17:03:00.000-04:00

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life. Proverbs 13:12

God is a God of Hope and a source of Hope. We need to be connected with God in order to have hope. We all have given up hope at one point and time. Often, we are the ones who give up, God never does. He’s the source of hope, that’s why He can give it to us. I encourage you to be connected to God when you need Hope.

I don’t know what you are dealing with today but the God of hope wants you to know He hasn’t given up on you. God so loved you that He not only sent you His only begotten Son but He gave you His Holy Spirit which gives you confident hope. The Bible says that you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.

"Return to the stronghold [of security and prosperity], you prisoners of hope;

even today do I declare that I will restore double your former prosperity to you."

Zechariah 9:12

We can all be emprisoned by hope. We can be sentenced to expect the promises of God. It’s in our DNA because of father Abraham we too are sons and daughters of faith. Because of what Jesus has done for us. We have freedom from the sin, lack of hope and desperation that we lived in. Some of us are still living under guilt, condemnation and unbelief. Yes you do believe in Jesus as your savior, you are going to heaven but when it comes to hoping in God for healing, deliverance from addictions, the salvation of loved ones or for things concerning your future, your hope is close to gone. Your heart is sick because hope has been deferred. God wants to tell you today that He hasn’t changed His mind concerning His promise.

Hope in God. Repent from unbelief and give yourself to God today. Believe, things are going to get better and your longing will be fulfilled.

* This post is an excerpts from 5/20/08 when I spoke on the title "Hope Deferred."

Making Friends and Singing

2011-10-14T07:01:00.002-04:00

Related Posts:
• Hope During Transition
• Isolation
• Dating a Musician: Rights and Wrongs

Curiosidade dos Estates: Zoológico de Houston

2011-10-13T07:05:00.002-04:00

Uma vez por mês o Zoológico de Houston oferece entrada franca. Eu e meus filhos aproveitamos e fomos visitar. Esse passeio normalmente custaria $20 dólares. O lugar é belíssimo e tem muita coisa legal pra criança de toda idade. Meus filhos ficaram no carrinho o tempo todo porque fui sózinha, então a gente só parou pra ver as atrações que dava pra ver de lá. Dê uma olhadinha nesse vídeo:

Pra mais informações no zoológico, visite a página deles.

Outra coisa interessante que aconteceu por esses dias foi que visitei o consulado brasileiro em Houston. Gostei muito de ter ido. O atendimento foi nota 1.000 e conhecer mais brasileiros sempre é uma bênção. Os brasileiros aqui na área estão todos espalhados, mas é sempre uma alegria saber que se tem um pedacinho do Brasil perto de nós.

Espero que o feriado tenha sido bom pra vocês que estão no Brasil. Um abraço a todos!

Leaders in the Home Front: Organization

2011-10-12T08:21:00.004-04:00

Leaders are everywhere. From playgrounds to board rooms, one can easily identify people who naturally take leadership in life. I call men and women who take care of their children at home “leaders in the home front” because they display and practice leadership principles that not only make their lives more efficient but impacts the lives of their families for generations. Today, I start my new series “Leaders in the Home Front” tackling the topic of how organization can open endless opportunities to any leader.
Constant organization can be a challenge but it’s worth pursuing. Being organized is an advantage that most leaders in the home front enjoy. Not all leaders are professional organizers but the benefit of having organized work spaces give them the opportunity to live more efficient lives. All leaders are given 24 hours per day and organization helps you make better use of these precious hours. The goal of organization is to do what you have to do so that you do what you want to do. For example, taking 5 minutes a day to organize my files allows me to easily find the data I need for a more better quarterly report. I also get to work on my future file, which is where I store ideas for future projects. If I’m not organized, planning for the future is not a priority at all.
The reasons why leaders need to be more organized are endless. My encouragement is for you to take the first step today. Make a list of reasons why you should be organized. It may include things such as:
• find cleaning supplies easier;
• know exactly where that tax return from 5 years ago is;
• stay up to date with passport expiration dates;
• get to family pictures and memorabilia for a child’s school project;
• guests will feel at ease in my office.
I believe that organized spaces display a visible part of a leader’s personality. I believe that getting organized may the first step to work on your dreams and goals. Which area of your life needs immediate attention as far as organization today? What possibilities will organization in that area open up for you?

A Pinterest-ing Life plus, Giveaway Winner

2011-10-11T06:34:00.000-04:00

If you haven't heard, Pinterest is the cool thing to do. It is a virtual pinboard where you can organize the beautiful things you find in the web. My virtual friend girls have been spending hours in this social media platform lately. Me? Once I got the concept, I started to really enjoy this site. I do two major things with my Pinterest account (you can follow me here):
1. Treat it as if it was a magazine. I look at other people's pins and really enjoy it as if I was looking at a never-ending magazine. Pinterest has been known to put me to sleep a time or two. Not in front of the computer but with my iPad 2 before a much needed nap.

2. Dream about decoration projects. If you know me well you probably know that home decor is not my forte. I enjoy getting new ideas here. Last night for example as we were decorating our home, my husband asked what has been the trend at Pinterest when it comes to hanging pictures. There, my virtual hobby made it to my real life.

Pinterest is awesome for creative people. I learned that getting the Chrome plug-in helps me to use it more often when I'm sitting here with my iMac.
You do need an invitation to start using Pinterest, so if you need one, e-mail me at simplycintia at gmail.com and you got it. Happy Pinning my friend!

We have a winner

• Congratulations Vicki Mehaffey! E-mail me your address so we can get your books to you! Thanks for a fun giveaway everyone! I'll have another next week!

Fitness Party Poopers

2011-10-10T08:45:00.002-04:00

an illustration of winners of races and me,
the person whose goal is to finish it strong.

We've been in Texas for close to two months and it's time to plan my fitness goals more aggressively. While I was in transition, my goals were to:

1. Maintain my weight - which with God's help I did;

2. Remain fit - with God's help I did.

You won't believe how much indirect discouragement I got. Here are the top ones:

• Running in Houston is not safe;

• It will mess up your knees;

• It's too hot to run outside;

• Houston is flat, your training won't be no good.

Please notice that all of these indirect discouragements came from non-runners.

In my search to stay encouraged and fit, I try to focus on clear goals (see who my sponsors are) and make sure that I take small but concise steps.

For the past 2 months I have learned not to extend myself over my reach. Transitions are difficult and adding stress to this journey is the recipe to fail. My goal is to challenge myself and keep this journey fun and enjoyable. Don't pay attention to any indirect discouragement that may come your way today but establish and reach your goals. Have an amazing day!

• TODAY is the last day to enter to win 4 children's books! Winner will be announced tomorrow! Click here

Anos Curtos, Dias Longos

2011-10-07T05:00:00.000-04:00

Os anos passam rápido quando se tem filhos mas os meus dias são longos sabe? É bom saber que Deus dá graça, sabedoria e muito amor pra que possamos lidar com tudo que acontece no nosso dia-a-dia.

Graça • muita gente vive me perguntando como consegui ter meus filhos um atrás do outro. A resposta é: a graça de Deus. Acho que mãe de gêmeos tem graça pra poder fazer tudo o que tem que se fazer. Mesmo quando se tem um filho de cada vez, Deus dá graça e sabedoria pra criá-los com muito amor.

Sabedoria • o temor do Senhor é o princípio da sabedoria. Toda mãe tem acesso a sabedoria divina. Muitas vezes os nossos anciãos, os médicos e especialistas não tem a sabedoria que Deus dá especialmente pra mães. Ele nos deu os nossos filhos e com essa herança vem a sabedoria divina pra criá-los com muito amor.

Amor • Deus é amor. Quando nasce um filho, uma mãe também nasce. A gente entende o amor ágape de Deus de uma maneira mais profunda e mais real. Dou graças a Deus por ter essa honra de ser mãe. Ensino muito mas também estou aprendendo.

Tenha certeza de que nos dias difíceis que toda mãe tem não se pensa na singeleza de ser mãe. O importante é lembrar que Deus confia em você e te escolheu pra passar uma herança espiritual pros seus filhos. Outra coisa interessante é lembrar que nossos filhos aprendem muito só por nos observar. Vamos praticar a graça, a sabedoria e o amor de Deus para que os nossos filhos aprendam por exemplo.

Um bom final-de-semana pra todos e todas!

Getting to Know You: Houston Zoo

2011-10-06T15:24:00.000-04:00

• Information on the Houston Zoo
Next time on Getting to Know You: the amazing Houston Ballet!

To Coupon or Not to Coupon?

2011-10-05T06:15:00.000-04:00

TV and word of mouth has made couponing super popular. Today as I checked out of the store coupon-free I saw a young mom checking out with tons of coupons. She had her young daughter with her and a lady who looked like it was her mom to help her with the baby. The transition took forever and I am positive it was worth the savings.

I often think if I should invest the time in couponing or not. It’s a science and it takes work. Here are the reasons why I haven’t done it:• every class out there to teach you how to starts charges you• It looks like it’s a lot of work• I developed a little something called brand loyalty• I just lack knowledge!I think I’d be willing to give it a try if I was guaranteed it’s gonna be easy and the savings are going to be amazing.I ran into something that looked very easy and I think it’s going to save me money. I found this awesome blog on How to Make Laundry Detergent and I am going to give it a try this week (already got all the ingredients!).The writer put it simple and easy for me. I felt empowered to give it a try because of the savings and because it looks so simple. I hope someone can point me to a couponing tutorial like this.Another thought: I wonder if there is someone out there who things they don’t need to save. I ran into someone I consider wealthy at Wal-Mart in my previous hometown, and I saw this person checking out with coupons. This simple action told me: if you can save, do it. Companies are giving out thousands of savings and why not take advantage of it?My hope is to make an experiment and see if it’s really worth it. I tell you what, I am really interested in saving in fresh fruits and vegetables but there’s not much couponing for that. I am highly interested in saving all I can when I purchase organic, fresh, life giving products for my family. Okay, this post will have a part 2. Have a great day and don't forget to enter to win 4 free books for your kids on my previous post!
*this post was previously published at Mom Perspective Blog.

Books for Toddlers - a Review

2011-10-04T07:11:00.000-04:00

A family who reads together

Today we are reviewing four Tommy Nelson books for kids. I have toddlers who fall asleep 'reading,' so I was really excited to introduce these four titles to them. Enjoy!

Review:

A Pumpkin Prayer by Amy Parker Illustrated by Kirsten Richards

• I found it to be very appropriate for the fall. The kids get a wholesome view of fall: the taste, the colors, the smell and the amazing feel of the cooler breeze. I like that the book teaches the kids to be thankful not only for the season but for the loved ones who are with us and make autumn even more special.

Night Night Blessings by Amy Parker Illustrated by Marijan Ramljak

• What I really liked about this book is that my kids can relate with the main character and the activities that she has throughout the day. It encourages them to be thankful for all they have and do. They really got excited about the bubble bath.

Thank You, God, for blessing me and Thank you, God, for loving me by Max Lucado
• The books are part of the Little Hermie collection. The first book teaches the kids how to look around and appreciate all that God has blessed us with: from nature to food and friends. I think this one is a good one to help with the concept of Thanksgiving (which will be here before we know it). The second book is a prayer of thankfulness for God loving the kids. I never thought about this concept but it's never too early to introduce to kids the many ways that God expresses His love and He cares for us each day.

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Perseverance Pays!

2011-09-30T12:57:00.001-04:00

No Time for Devotional? God is Just a Tweet Away

2011-09-28T10:41:00.001-04:00

Today I will be Tweeting with God. When I wrote my eBook, my life was intensely filled with the joy of having two kids under 2 years of age. Today the demands of moving to a new state while adapting to this new life have left me with no time for what I call a "decent devotional time."

Last night as I went to an awesome ladies Bible study, I heard the leader emphasize that we need to spend time with God first thing in the morning. I agree. The problem is that when you are in a busy season of life (insert small kids, job, caring for elderly parents, etc here) you just get up and get going. I totally agree that spending time with God first thing in the morning is awesome and brings great benefits. The fact is that when you've been up every two hours feeding, the last thing you think about is devotional when you wake up. I actually wake thinking that I need more sleep.

I know that God doesn't want me to feel guilty because I didn't spend time with Him when I got up late this morning and my kids couldn't wait til my devotional was over so they could eat. I believe that God knows where I am and loves me as much as He loves the women that are in a season of life where they can spend significant time in their prayer closet.

My solution for busy days like today is to remember that "God is just a tweet away." Be encouraged my friend!

Tweeting with God eBook from Cintia Listenbee on Vimeo.

• Do you deal with guilt when you don't have time for devotional? How do you solve this problem?

How to Effectively Tweet for your Boss

2011-09-27T06:30:00.000-04:00

3 Rules for Success

Rejoice! Being a Ghost Twitter is a cool job. You know what's cooler? Doing it right. Here are three simple rules that will make your work flawless:
1. Make it plain • Use your twitter description to tell followers who tweets in the account. People love transparency, thus, tell them who's behind the magic. If you are just starting an account, you can tweet letting people know how to recognize when your boss is actually tweeting.
2. Follow the Golden (Grammar) Rule • Do your boss a favor by following basic Grammar Rules. It is okay to use 'text language' when tweeting but in order to effectively deliver a message, you must observe basic English grammar.
3. Learn his or her Voice • It's imperative to learn your employer's voice and to deliver it on Twitter. Don't tweet as if your employer is from London if she's a down home Mississippi girl. Talking about your strategy is always a good idea.

I hope this simple rules help you be excellent at your work. Happy tweeting! For more Social Media Posts, click here

Living Abundantly with Contentment

2011-09-26T14:48:00.002-04:00

Yesterday I gave a lot of thought about this past month. I realize need to do several things that will clearly improve my health so I am committed to do them starting today.

The main thing that will link all my efforts (health, stress management, etc) together is found in the word "contentment." Here's what the Bible says about it:

"Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth." 1 Timothy 6:6 (NLT)

There are other translations that say that godliness with contentment brings great profit or gain.

These are my treasures, I am thankful!

I am searching for contentment is so that when I look back at this season of life, I will have no regrets. I want to live abundantly in this moment, with contentment. I believe that contentment is also a form of thanksgiving. When I am content, I am saying, "God I am thankful for the amazing blessings you have provided for me. I am really satisfied with this life You gave me." How happier would life be if I had contentment and thanksgiving as goals for my day?

• Now I ask you, what areas of your life lack contentment? How do you get to happy?

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This Week in Posts

2011-09-23T07:08:00.000-04:00

This week:
We started with Big BLOG News, which was the #1 post of the week. We explained what Toxic Friends are and you learned how to avoid these types of relationships. We made Social Media for Busy Pastors really easy and we finished the week with a video em Português para Líderes de Igreja usando o Facebook.
Next Week:

A how-to Post!

• Ghost Tweeters are growing in prominence. I give you 3 ways to do it right.

Question:

• What was your favorite post this week and why? What other topics would you like me to talk about?

Thank you for reading my blog!

Have an amazing weekend! - Cintia

Facebook para Líderes de Igreja

2011-09-21T22:51:00.000-04:00

Meu website: www.CintiaListenbee.com

Social Media for Busy Pastors

2011-09-21T09:23:00.001-04:00

Most busy Pastors shutter at the thought of one more bullet on the to-do list. When faced with social media options, Pastors are always asking "how will this benefit me?" The simple answer is that by using social media, you will be able to connect with a world wide audience and spread your influence beyond the sound of your microphone. I know that
not all pastors have a staff taking care of online streaming, Blog posts and the Twitter account so here is are 3 easy things you can do today to enhance your social media presence.

1 • Discover what's relevant. If you are a pastor in Holly Springs, Mississippi, the social media usage of your congregation may differ from a pastor in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. Avoid adding one more account you need to manage by finding out what your congregation uses the most. No use of having Twitter if your congregation is really loving Facebook.
2 • Be Consistent. This is the most important key. If you start communicating in any social media platform, be consistent. People respond to constant updates from you. The first step is to be honest and decide how much time do you really have for social media. If you decided it's twice a week, be consistent and you will receive good results.
3 • Add Value to your Readers. I am sure that you did not deliver all your study notes last Sunday. Is there a paragraph you can blog about which will not only remind people of your sermon but give them that extra encouragement for the week? That's what I mean by adding value to your readers: you give them more, you give them extra, you add value to their lives.

These three simple strategies will help you make the most of your time online while delivering effectiveness to your online media efforts.
Related Post: 5 Reasons why your Church should Tweet
Next in the series: How to Effectively Tweet for your Boss

Next Week at SimplyCintia.com

Toxic Friends 101

2011-09-20T05:30:00.000-04:00

Photo Credit

In my search for meaningful, God-sent friendships, I am learning the importance of identifying safe people. The journey to discern between safe and unsafe friendships can be tricky. Today I offer three simple ways to avoid toxic friendships and move on to life-giving, wise ones. Toxic people usually win 3 major contests: the Dumping Contest, the Street Contest and the Speech Contest.

1. The Dumping Contest • People who are really good contenders here are constantly dump all their worries, fears and problems on you. When they call you they have the opening monologue where for 20 minutes they are the total center of attention. They are also top winners in the Street Contest.

2. The Street Contest • in order to win, just take the 'One Way Street' route. The only beneficiary in this type of relationship is the toxic friend. They are the center of attention and there is a great demand to cater to all their needs. Oh, they easily win the Speech Contest.

3. The Speech Contest • Pay attention on how they speak of others. During this contest, the way they talk about others is keenly observed. If they talk down, slander and disrespect others in your presence, it is almost guaranteed they will do the same thing to you.

It's important to know the capacity a person has for friendship so there's mutual reciprocity. At the end of the day, safe friendships are life-giving:

"Real wisdom, God's wisdom, begins with a holy life and is characterized by getting along with others. It is gentle and reasonable, overflowing with mercy and blessings, not hot one day and cold the next, not two-faced. You can develop a healthy, robust community that lives right with God and enjoy its results only if you do the hard work of getting along with each other, treating each other with dignity and honor." James 3:17-18 [The Message]

Are you receiving wisdom from your friends?

Question: In your opinion, what other characteristics do toxic friends display?

Related Post: Life Lesson #3 (Friendship)

BIG blog NEWS

2011-09-19T06:37:00.000-04:00

Look at the links on the sidebar (on your right side) and follow me in different social media platforms. It's a pleasure to serve you! You can also follow me on Google Plus!

Social Media Breakfast Houston

2011-09-16T18:24:00.002-04:00

Here are the photos of this morning's Social Media Breakfast Houston event. The topic was Cloudsorcing Government. Mayor Annise Parker and ten city departments shared on the topic:

Social Media: a Tribe

2011-09-15T07:04:00.001-04:00

Follow me on Twitter to know how the events are going!

Today I am getting together with my friends Jackie and Rachelle and we are going to attend our first Houston Bloggers meetup. How exciting is that?
I am slowly but surely finding my tribes so I can connect. My first experience meeting other bloggers came at Type A Parent in Asheville, NC. The conference really changed the way I approach social media and I am so thankful for that opportunity. Look for a follow up post next week!
I'm also attending the Houston Social Media Breakfast Friday which is another amazing opportunity to connect and check out the social media scene.
God has been faithful to us. We have been here officially for 1 month and we are really taking some concrete steps towards becoming a part of the community. Praying as well as being proactive really helps. I thank God for tribes - especially when you get to talk about SEO non-stop and no one thinks is weird.

While I Wait: Do Something

2011-09-14T12:38:00.001-04:00

Last year I wrote a series called "While I Wait." Today I found myself asking some of the same questions: what do you do While you Wait.
I was encouraged by my amazing husband to take some action and I found so many awesome things waiting for me once I did.
• I decided to get my digital life organized while I waited. Several sites needed to be updated, PDFs needed to be created, you get the point.
• I decided to start living and 'get to happy' without needing all my circumstances to be in place. As I went for a run this morning I heard Joyce Meyer say that "The joy of the Lord is your strength, not the joy of your circumstances."
• What about you? Are there small steps you can take "While you Wait?"

"Success means doing the best we can with what we have. Success is the doing, not the getting — in the trying, not the triumph." Zig Ziglar

Living Without Excuses: Health

2011-09-13T09:19:00.001-04:00

A year ago I was thinking about my health. This year I am trying not to make excuses about putting my health first. How many times have I failed and succeeded in diets? Many. I remember how proud I was of the times I lost a gazillion pounds and looked 'really good.' Then I slipped back into my old ways. How many times did I have the same story: January 1st comes along, I change, then a few months later I am back at my old habits. I think I tried (and failed) 10 times. The Excuse-Free Life says: you only live your life once and you will do it in optimum health. Enough of starting and stopping: this time you will find something that works for you. Living without excuses means you look back over your life and discover what didn't work so you avoid it. It means you find something that works for you, for you are your own expert. It means you ask for help along the way. You get encouragement and keep focused on your goal of living life with purpose.

Because of my old lifestyle, High Blood Pressure had a great excuse to 'happen' to me. I have family history but I made my schedule, I did that to myself (extra stress). I'm the one who made all the food choices by purchasing it, chewing it and gaining the weight.

I arrived at a point in my life where I chose the Excuse-Free Life because the opposite would lead to poor health. I don't want to wait til I get bad news from doctors. I did that once (with the high blood pressure episode) and it was not fun. I am thinking about those 10 times I dieted, failed and started all over again. What's more important than enjoying top quality of life? The Excuse-Free Life is a life of purpose. I am determined to enjoy optimum health.

Curiosidades dos Estates: 11 de Setembro

2011-09-12T07:13:00.001-04:00

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Dia 11 de Setembro de 2001 eu estava cansada. Tinha chegado de uma viagem de 14 horas do Mississippi pra Washington, D.C. no dia anterior. Eu estava pronta pra começar o meu estágio e tinha visto pela televisão o início dos acontecimentos em Nova Yorke. Desci pra imprimir um artigo que escrevi e vi o avião caindo no Pentagon. Imediatamente todo mundo no lobby do hotel começou a fazer ligações. Ainda pasma, perguntei pra um moço que estava do meu lado "onde que é o Pentagon?" ele disse, "fica a duas quadras daqui." Subi pro meu quarto e vi o Pentagon pegando fogo da minha janela. O tumulto de todos os acontecimentos ainda estavam em todo lugar. Na televisão, as duas torres caíram. Naquele momento eu pensei "não existe mesmo um super homem pra nos salvar." Lembro que orei e tive paz no coração. Meu tio me ligou pedindo pra eu ligar pro meu pai. Eu estava tentando mas as linhas estavam ocupadíssimas. Finalmente consegui falar com ele e com minha família.

Na tarde de 11 de Setembro, Washington, D.C. era uma cidade fantasma. Tudo estava fechado, o país estava de luto.

Fiquei por lá por uns 4 dias, encontrei com uns amigos que me levaram pra dar uma voltinha, mas tudo estava fechado: os monumentos, os pontos turísticos, etc.

Acabaram adiando o início do meu estágio, então fui pra West Virginia e voltei umas poucas semanas depois.

Uma das coisas que marcou aquela época foi que em 99% dos artigos que escrevi pro jornal tinham algo haver com terrorismo.

Esse ano olho pra pessoa que eu era 10 anos atrás. Completamente dependendo de Deus pra tudo. A imagem do Pentagon pegando fogo ali pertinho de mim, hoje me levam a orar por paz na terra.

Também oro pelas pessoas atingidas por essa tragédia. 10 anos depois, eu imagino como as famílias estão passando. Sei que posso orar e pedir a Deus por conforto e misericórdia pra todos.

Com certeza os acontecimentos do dia 11 de Setembro mudaram o jeito que nós vivemos nossa vida. Pra mim também mudou o jeito que oro e dependo da graça e misericórdia de Deus.

Oremos por todos afetados pelos eventos de 11 de Setembro de 2001. Oremos por paz na terra.

The Excuse-Free Life

2011-09-08T08:10:00.001-04:00

Ants at work by Seth Teeters

As humans we often give up the great for the good. I think that one of the main ways we get that done is through Excuses. Consider the word Excuse as "to seek or obtain release for oneself."

Now, let's consider creatures that do not make excuses (as far as I know):

"Ants—they aren’t strong, but they store up food all summer." (Proverbs 30:25 NLT)

Consider their ways:

"Without leader, administrator, or ruler, it prepares its provisions in summer; it gathers its food during harvest. How long will you stay in bed, you slacker? When will you get up from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the arms to rest, and your poverty will come like a robber, your need, like a bandit." (Proverbs 6:7-11 HCSB)

Poverty doesn't always mean money. I know a lot of people who are poor in health, poor in other important things in life such as healthy relationships.

Dear friend, you and I are in the summer season of our lives and it is not too late to start preparing provisions. Can you think of one way you can do that? Ants take small steps but they gather a lot because they have a clear goal and purpose. Think about your health. Taking small steps such as including more exercise in your week will make a huge impact in your life in the long haul. Think about small steps you can take in other areas of your life.

I want to encourage you not to give up the good for the great. There will be other red tag sales. The movie on TV will be repeated more times so you can use those 2 hours to take solid steps towards your dream.

There is still time to make a major difference in your life this year. Get up and do it my friend.

Hope during Transition

2011-09-07T11:19:00.001-04:00

As I dread this transition, Zeke reminded me that we haven't been in Texas for a month yet. Since we announced our big move to Texas and said goodbye to our friends in Western North Carolina we are learning a lot about being in transition.

One of the meanings of transition is movement. I am very glad that I am not stuck in this (not so fun) stage of life. From getting a new license for the fourth time at the DMV to getting a whole new (real life, face-to-face) support system. I have learned that it's unfair to act like I am not in transition. It's also unfair to act like this too won't pass. For example, I am slowly getting back to my high mileages as far as exercise. I've been so tired and still looking for the optimum training location, thus patience is name of the game. The same goes with connecting with people. I wrote about isolation and the hope that comes from being friendly. It's important to have faith that those social connections will come together as chains and they will be strong and meaningful. I have written about being an immigrant and being here in the US with the mission of being a blessing. I often wonder how in the world I can even start to find the blessing that comes with transition.

Zeke reminded me of the transition phase that I experienced when I gave birth for the first time. Transition is the most difficult phase of the first stage of labor. You feel unable to relax or be comfortable during the most intense part of labor. One thing is for sure, birth is about to happen.

As I go on in this uncomfortable season of life I am assured that great things happen when I remember these verses:

"Trust God from the bottom of your heart;

don't try to figure out everything on your own.

Listen for God's voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;
he's the one who will keep you on track.
Don't assume that you know it all.
Run to God!" Proverbs 3:5-7 (The Message)
• What brought you comfort when you were in transition (labor or not)?

Imigração e Propósito

2011-09-06T08:45:00.002-04:00

13 anos atrás na faculdade

Meus planos e os planos de Deus são bem diferentes. O meu sonho era de fazer faculdade de Jornalismo na UFRJ e talvez trabalhar em um dos jornais do Rio. O plano de Deus era pra eu vir pros Estados Unidos e viver aqui. 13 anos se passaram desde que cheguei com 200 dólares no bolso e uma mala. Lembro do passado e vejo a fidelidade de Deus na minha vida. Como que eu consegui vencer a saudade da minha família e do meu país? Posso resumir a resposta em uma palavra: Propósito.
Propósito é "a razão de algo existir, ser feito ou de ser usado." Depois de 13 anos aqui continuo a aprender mais sobre o propósito de Deus pra minha estada aqui. Quando Deus se envolve no propósito, há segurando e paz. Eu tenho certeza de que o Deus que me trouxe aqui é capaz de me guiar em toda Verdade. Eu também tenho muita paz pois sei que estou no lugar onde Deus quer que eu esteja.
A Bíblia fala muito dos propósitos de Deus, então durante esses anos todos escolhi estar ligada na Palavra como uma linha direta a vida. Através da leitura Bíblica, e da comunhão com Deus e com a igreja, aprendi que sou sua filha amada primeiro. Depois é que sou Brasileira, esposa, mãe, etc. Aqui vão dois versículos âncoras que guardo no coração quando penso na minha experiência de imigrante:
Portanto, vocês não são mais estrangeiros nem estranhos. Agora vocês são cidadãos que pertencem ao povo de Deus; vocês são da família de Deus. (Efésios 2:19 WBPT)
Porém a nossa pátria está nos céus, de onde também estamos esperando o nosso Salvador, o Senhor Jesus Cristo. (Filipenses 3:20 WBPT)
De maneira que essa verdade habita no meu ser, a vida se torna mais doce.
Eu acho que a saudade da família, amigos e do meu Brasil nunca vai acabar, mas há conforto, na certeza do propósito de Deus pra minha imigração pros Estados Unidos.
As lições que aprendi nessa década que se passou, aconteceram por eu estar aberta pro plano de Deus pra minha vida. Eu não sei se eu aprenderia essas lições da mesma forma no Brasil porque estar aqui sózinha me faz depender de Deus de uma maneira totalmente diferente.
Hoje amadureci no meu entendimento de quem sou em Cristo. Eu sei que estou aqui pra abençoar essa terra com os talentos que Deus me deu em nome de Jesus.
Eu oro pra que você também descubra o propósito de Deus pra sua vida.
Você tem tanto pra dar, e Deus quer que você floresça onde estiver plantado. Lembre-se de que quando o seu coração doer de saudades, o conforto virá porque o Confortador vive dentro de você. Que Deus continue abençoando os meus queridos amigos e amigas imigrantes.

5 Reasons Why your Church Should Tweet

2011-09-04T07:00:00.000-04:00

Twitter is a conversation where you communicate within 140 characters. Churches always ask me why they should be on Twitter. I tell them to consider the acronym R.E.A.C.H.

your church should
be on Twitter

1. Reach - Not all churches can be on television. Not all churches can afford ad rates. Twitter is a platform that has the capacity of help you reach a vast, world-wide audience through your tweets.

2. Engage - A lot of the good conversation that happens on Sundays can and should continue during the week. Twitter can help you send out sermon notes, encouragement and even announcements. The opportunity of engaging people in the great things going on in your ministry is always available on Twitter.

3. Add - every social media platform should add value to people. Think about the uniqueness of your church and translate that into your use of Twitter. Remember to add value to the reader every time you tweet.

4. Communicate - Twitter is faster than that newsletter you send in the mail. The challenge is to get creative and express what's going on within 140 characters. Remember to use links to your advantage.

5. Hear - Conversations are about talking and listening. Twitter is a great place to hear what's in people's hearts. Remember that you can make a difference by listening. Do something different for your ministry, R.E.A.C.H. a vast audience through Twitter.

* For more information and for Social Media Consulting, contact me at CintiaListenbee.com

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Isolation

2011-09-02T06:27:00.000-04:00

Life can provide isolating experiences at time, such as when you move to a new place. There are so many possibilities but you’re not quite there yet. Well, I am totally talking about myself.

I am feeling quite isolated lately. My entire support system stayed in North Carolina. The thought and reality of it almost wrecked me last week. Yesterday was a pretty difficult day as well, although I prayed a little, went for a walk and listened to Zig Ziglar. I was supposed to be pumped and over the top but I wasn’t. I proceeded to the Toddler Story Time at the public library when I saw a missed called from a friend from NC. She prayed with and for me and it changed my whole being. Story time was fantastic – that also helped my day. I saw my mentor had left me a message on FB so I called her and I was further encouraged. She said, Cintia, you are a good friend and you will find good friends. She also reminded me of Proverbs 18:24 (a man that hath friends must shew himself friendly), which gave me hope. The week I got here I saw a friend I had not seen in 10 years and I recently talked to my BFF from Middle School. Both are in Brazil but both remind me that I am a good friend. The isolation we often suffer erase some of the goodness that’s in us. I think God has ways to show us we are better than we give ourselves credit. I am going to dare to say that now that I am going through this experience I know exactly what newcomers feel and what they need. I have a new level of compassion for them. I am also a firm believer that friendships can’t be forced. I believe (just like my friend prayed for me yesterday) that I will find likeminded friends. If I keep showing myself friendly, the friends will come. Instead of entertaining the bad feelings that come with isolation, I keep thinking about what do I want to give in a friendship. I often think about what I want from a friend but yesterday I realized I am to invest in my friends, I am to give and make a difference in their lives.

If you are feeling isolated for some reason today, please know that I totally understand. Let’s try to focus showing ourselves friendly and also being wide-open to the amazing friends we’ll meet soon or later.
* Originally Posted at Mom Perspective, the blog where I talk Motherhood exclusively.

Question

2011-09-01T12:35:00.001-04:00

We are often quoting others. If people quoted YOU, what would the quote say? What IS your life message?

Purpose and Immigration

2011-08-30T10:23:00.001-04:00

My plans never matched God's plans for me and in a sense, I am so glad. My dream was to go to journalism school in Rio de Janeiro and maybe work for a newspaper. God's plans were for me to immigrate to the US and live here. 13 years have gone by since I first arrived with $200 dollars in my pocket and 1 suitcase. As I look back I can honestly say that God has been faithful. How did I overcome missing Brazil and my family through these years? My answer can be found in one word: Purpose.

Purpose is "the reason for which something exists or is done, made or used." For 13 years I continue to learn what is my Godly Purpose in this land. Once God was involved in my Purpose I gained assurance and peace. I was sure that the God who brought me here is well able to guide me in all Truth. I have also found a lot of peace in the fact that I am where God wants me to be.

The Bible is filled with God's purposes for me, so I choose to be connected with the Word as a lifeline. Through Bible reading as well as fellowship with God and His people I learned that I am His beloved daughter before I am a citizen of Brasil, a wife, a mother and a business owner. Here are two anchor scriptures marked in my heart when it comes to my immigration experience:

"Now, therefore, you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God" Ephesians 2:19 (NKJV)

"For our citizenship is in heaven, from which we also eagerly wait for the Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ" Philippians 3:20 (NKJV)

As I internalize this truth, my everyday life here becomes sweeter.

I don't think I will ever overcome missing my family and friends but I know that I can find strength in knowing what is God's Purpose for my life.

The lessons I learned in this last decade came from being open to God's plan for my life. I am sure I could not completely have learned them in my home country because being here caused me to be dependent on God in a deeper level.

Today I am more mature in my knowledge of who I am in Christ. I know I am here to bless this land with the gifts and talents God has given me.

I pray that you too can seek God's Purpose for your life. You have so much to give and God wants us to bloom where we are planted. Remember that when your heart longs for home Comfort will come because you have the Comforter inside of you. May God continue to strengthen all my fellow immigrants.

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