Marriage: 6 Years, 6 Lessons

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Photo: Wedding day: Tuesday, January 17, 2006
My husband and I celebrate 6 years of marriage today. I wanted to share the 6 lessons we have learned in the past 6 years. It’s as simple as A-B-C-D-E-F:

Agreement • Having harmony in marriage makes life so pleasant. When you walk in agreement, you also establish what type of marriage you are going to have as well as which things you will or won’t allow to come between you. Amos 3:3 ask a pivotal question: Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? Agreement in Marriage helps us set the direction of our lives together.

Boundaries • Life is fluid and I need to keep making adjustments. One of our main goals is to establish boundaries where our family's autonomy is without question. In this autonomy,  there is one head of the family (my husband) where both parents are the decision makers. No outsiders get to decide our future. We know there is wisdom in Godly counsel but we are responsible for our family before God, thus making the establishment of boundaries a huge necessity for a successful marriage.

Connection • Dates are not the only ways to connect. I can connect during those first moments when my husband gets home. I can also reconnect in other ways. Speaking his love language well helps us stay connected.
Dream • Having dreams for the future has been blissful. No matter what circumstances we encounter, dreaming and establishing goals for the future has given us hope and helped us stay connected in this journey. Living a quality life includes more than waking up in the same bed. Having hope for the future gives us an amazing sense of purpose as a couple. It is also a lot of fun.
Encouragement • When you focus on your spouse’s virtues and not their faults, you are using encouragement as a powerful tool in your marriage. For many, remembering to be encouraging can be a challenge and a skill learned. The many benefits includes a more positive atmosphere in your home and healing. Encouragement is a discipline that reminds us of what’s right with the person we fell in love with. Read about a 30-Day Encouragement Challenge.
Foundation • I often go back to the foundation of my marriage to Zeke. Foundation is the ground where a structure stands. In our case, our foundation is in Christ. We all know that buildings with strong foundations stand the test of time, rains, etc. Having a strong foundation is critical for the success of the marriage relationship.
I pray that your marriage is getting stronger and stronger as the years go by.
Lu Francesa said...

Parabéns pelos 6 anos de casamento,q Deus continue abençoando-os ;)

Patricia D. said...

Happy anniversary! This is great, I loved it. Great advice and very creative too! I agree with a-f! I met my husband at a party at a friend's church and thank God for bringing us together. (We just celebrated 3 years 11/7/11)

Patricia D. said...

P.S. I had written a little something on marriage as well. I sent you the link on Twitter under username MomsDirtySecret via NYboeiqqua117 (that's me). I couldn't seem to paste the link here since I'm using my iPhone. Check it out when you get a chance!