NaBloPoMo: Viagem e Festa

Friday, November 30, 2012

 Fazem uns 2 anos que não venho no Mississippi. Essa é uma foto que tirei numa parada. Achei esses azulejos interessantes!
Minha sogra mora aqui, então tivemos várias oportunidades de sair pra jantar ou almoçar. Esse estado é um dos mais gordos dos Estados Unidos, então eu tenho tentado escolher verduras e legumes quando saímos. Nesse restaurante em particular eles tem uma parte só de comidas mais saudáveis. Tiramos uma foto minha escolhendo minha salada de salmão.
 Depois da janta fomos no Starbucks. Eu tirei uma foto dele...
 E ele tirou uma foto minha. Em vez de comer sobremesa todo dia, tomar um cafézinho com um pouquinho de leite de soja ajuda.
 Fomos na igreja do meu irmão no domingo, esse momento é da mensagem pras crianças. Meus filhos nunca participaram, então meu esposo teve que ajudá-los a ficarem sentados lá com as primas.
 Ontem foi o aniversário do meu esposo. Almoçamos no restaurante onde tivemos o nosso "first date" quando estávamos na faculdade. Foi legal voltar lá depois de 9 anos. Como Deus tem me abençoado!
 Decorei a sala de jantar da minha sogra pra festa de aniversário. Peguei essa idéia no Pinterest.
 Ficou interessante, um pouquinho mais festiva a sala.
Meus filhos mais velhos ajudaram a soprar a vela. Com a ajuda de Deus esses dias tem sido bons!
* Fotos tiradas com o Instagram.

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NaBloPoMo: Happy birthday Zeke!

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Today is my husband's birthday. When I met him 9 years ago I made a decision to always celebrate his birthday in a "large" way. Large may be going out to eat, singing happy birthday or it may consist of a surprise party. My goal is to be sure the whole day is about him. This is not always possible depending on what's going on with work and extended family but as far as our family unit is concerned, we celebrate him and make sure he really enjoys his day.
Zeke is one of the most generous people I know. He is genuine, honest and he loves his wife and children with every ounce of his being. I feel extremely blessed to be his wife and the mother of his children. We are best friends and we love spending time with each other. It is my honor and pleasure to celebrate his 33rd birthday with him today! Here's how we celebrated on the past few years (some of these are in Portuguese):
2011 - Surprise party
2010 - Immediately loved
2009 - 30 {português}
2008 - 29 {português}
2007 - festa surpresa {português}
Happiest birthday to you Zeke. May your dreams come true! We love you! Your wife and kids.
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NaBloPoMo: 2013 Goal Setting

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

I don't want my year to be known by how busy it was but how fruitful it was. I want 2013 to be the best year for my family. I have had a difficult time setting goals while pregnant mostly because of my distorted view of resolutions. I used to think they were all about losing weight and things like that. Now, I think it's about personal advancement for the good of my family. I am starting to think of 2013 as a year where I simplify my life and make it more effective on a personal level.
I believe that my Christian marriage is the foundation of our family, so my goals are shared, discussed and set with my husband. The ideal place to do that is in a Marriage Vision Retreat. In case you can't fit that into your 2012 schedule, sitting down together and discussing personal, marriage and family goals is always a great thing to do. Here is what I am asking myself as I end 2012:
Personal/Family Commitments - who or what am I committed to? What are the specific ways in which these commitments happen?
Personal Goals - what do I want to accomplish personally?
Family Goals - what will our family accomplish in 2013?
The power of Goal Revision - once you set your vision for your family, it is very important to review them for a couple of reasons: accountability, encouragement, celebration and adjustments.  
My challenge for you and I is to start writing down our commitments and goals. When we look at them on paper, we will have an easier way to see what our priorities need to be.
QUESTION • When do you set your personal and family goals? What is your process like?
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NaBloPoMo: Rest

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Matthew 11:28 sums up {Best Life} for me. Jesus says, I will give you rest. Resting during the holiday season guarantees the much needed joy this season is known for. It guarantees a sound mind in order to make better decisions. It guarantees that we will be fully present in this moment. It will give you a clear mind that can look back on 2012 and decide the direction for 2013. 
Don't be fulled with the business of the season, get some rest on a regular basis and see how much better this season can be.
I'm taking the day to rest and recover so that I can reap all the benefits from the Best Life God has for me. Jesus says 'I will give you rest.' Will you accept His gift?
P.S.: My friend Amanda told me that a good addition to yesterday's posts on holiday gifts we can all afford is the gift of rest. Give it to someone who really needs it such as a mom of young kids or a caretaker for an elderly parent.
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NaBloPoMo: 3 Holiday Gifts you Can Afford

Monday, November 26, 2012

Everyone seems to have a list on the must have gifts of the season. No one is immune from this consumer oriented holiday, the industry is ever pushing us to give gifts to as many people as possible. I am not against gift giving, I am against spending what we don't have. I have compiled a list of 3 things we can all give this holiday season. I dare you to include these in your gift giving. 

The gift of your Time - the most precious of all gifts one can give, time is priceless and so much needed. Here's what Rick Warren said about it: "Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it. You can make more money, but you can't make more time. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time... Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is "T-I-M-E.” I encourage you to give the precious gift of your time to  someone in your list.
The gift of your Presence - a warm body should never be confused with being present. For example, if you decide to attend one of your kid's Christmas plays but can't get that technology glow off your face, you are not really present. Some people can't have a 30-minute conversation without constantly checking their phone. Being completely present shows respect for the other. It says, you are most important and I am fully engaged in this activity with you. Can you think of someone who needs the gift of your presence this Christmas season? 
The gift of your Service - God created you unique, that's why no one can serve like you can. Whether you serve by building houses for Habitat for Humanity or you decide to bake desserts and send them to a homeless shelter, the gift of your Service brings you closer to your purpose in life. Your personality, your bend, the things you care about where placed in you by God for the benefit of others around you. The gift of your Service does more than make you appreciate the things you have, it really says 'I appreciate the way God created me, so I will use my talents to improve the lives of others.' Can you think of the unique ways you can serve others this holiday season?

I encourage you to include these 3 gifts in your list this season. They're free but they will cost you something. What you get in return is worth the investment. I believe these gifts will make a difference and bring much needed joy in the lives that will be impacted by you.
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NaBloPoMo: Flaws & Character

Sunday, November 25, 2012

"Growth Requires a Teachable Attitude"
a YouVersion Devotional by Rick Warren 

While you were given a brand new nature at the moment of conversion, you still have old habits, patterns, and practices that need to be removed and replaced.
We are afraid to humbly face the truth about ourselves. 

We often build our identities around our defects. We say, "It's just like me to be " and "It's just the way I am." The unconscious worry is that if I let go of my habit, my hurt, or my hang-up, who will I be? This fear can definitely slow down your growth.

Only as God is allowed to shine the light of his truth on our faults, failures, and hang-ups can we begin to work on them. This is why you cannot grow without a humble, teachable attitude.

Godly habits take time to develop. Remember that your character is the sum total of your habits. You can't claim to have integrity unless it is your habit to always be honest. 

Your habits define your character. There is only one way to develop the habits of christlike character: You must practice them - and that takes time! 

These character-building habits are often called "spiritual disciplines," and they include such things as meditation, prayer, fasting, Bible study, simplicity, stewardship, solitude, submission, service and evangelism.

"Meditate on these things; give yourself entirely to them, that your progress may be evident to all." 1 Timothy 4:15
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NaBloPoMo: Weight Loss Before and After

Saturday, November 24, 2012

I love a success story. These are my Before and After photos pre-babies. They show the moment I decided to change my lifestyle and invest in my health from the inside (starting with renewing my mind) out.
This holiday two family members noticed I lost weight. I was really thrilled they noticed and I encouraged them in their health journey. I refuse to say that losing weight after having kids is difficult. It is doable if I put the work into it. These photos make me think of focus, determination and perseverance. I believe I will be even more successful this time around. 
QUESTION • What comes to mind when you look at your own before and after photos?

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NaBloPoMo: Thankful Still

Friday, November 23, 2012


Thanksgiving was a good day. We traveled to my husband's hometown to visit my in-laws and arrived right on time for Thanksgiving dinner. The kids traveled well and are having a blast. I had a chance to see some family I haven't seen in a while. I am looking forward to connecting with my siblings, cousins, nieces and nephew this holiday. I am aware that family is a blessing and I cherish these relationships. I missed my late father-in-law this year. It's painfully obvious he's gone but it hit me when I realized there was no one to drink coffee with this year. Still, his legacy lives in the lives of his future generations. And what a new level of joy they bring to the holidays! Today I won't be joining on the Black Friday frenzy (well, I do need to go out and buy coffee) but I am thankful still. 
QUESTION • Do you have a good reason to be thankful still?
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NaBloPoMo: Thank You

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Top things I am thankful for:

10 • Netflix
9 • journals
8 • books
7 • MOPS
6 • photography
5 • iPad
4 • baby slings
3 • dark chocolate (60% cocoa)
2 • dark roast coffee
1 • running

Thank you God for blessing me in so many ways. I have this list of things to be thankful for but I want to thank you for my amazing family. You have given me the best husband in the universe as well as the best children. I am so happy with the life you have given me! Thank you God for the gift of family and the lessons You are teaching me through them.
QUESTION: What are you thankful for today?
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NaBloPoMo: How I Gained and Lost Weight during the Holiday

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Some mistakes are not worth repeating. A few years ago I gained 7 lbs during the Thanksgiving holiday. How? Very simple:
I ate a 3,000-calorie meal at least once a day not counting other meals and snacks. I have read recently that the traditional Thanksgiving meal is really 4,500 calories (see a breakdown in calories here), so the damage might have been worse than I thought.
I didn't exercise. My excuses were: I'm don't have a gym membership out of town; I deserve a break; I don't want to sweat.
I ate my feelings. Difficult extended family gatherings are the places where I ate my feelings more effectively. I stuffed my faced instead of finding better solutions for my problems.

Some wellness patterns are worth keeping. Recently, I have been able to lose weight during the Thanksgiving (and Christmas) holiday. It's not easy but here's how I managed to do that:
I planned my meals. I cooked my family's favorite foods with a few modifications. We all love pecan pie, so I cooked a lower calorie version of it just to be sure I enjoyed it with everyone. Here's my video review of a traditional versus a lower calorie pecan pie. Here's my food log of our Thanksgiving dinner.
I chose to exercise. I decided to exercise no matter how simple the activity. I remember taking a 15-minute walk around my neighborhood with my husband. Including exercise in my normal routine makes a difference physically and emotionally during the holiday. It also kicks stress in the behind. 
I stayed accountable. When our family travels during the holidays, I made sure to attend a Weight Watchers meeting out of town to stay accountable. I was so happy to find out I lost weight! All my efforts counted! I am no longer a member, but my way of staying accountable is to set my goals here and log them on dailymile.com If you have a friend, a "fr-ainer" or a real trainer, you can be accountable to them and get encouragement during this time of the year. 

QUESTION • Do you have a tendency to lose or gain weight during the holidays? What is your best  wellness strategy for the season?

Related Post:
How not to gain weight during the Holiday?

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NaBloPoMo: Exercise during the Holidays

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

I have learned that making excuses not to workout during the holidays lead to weight gain and much misery. I decided to make the extra effort to workout anyway just because it is such a good habit to maintain. Working out during the holidays is a sure way to fight the extra pounds we tend to pick up during turkey feast. It also helps to ease the tension of difficult family gatherings. I have learned to be honest with myself and don't set impossible goals. My goal is to get 3 workouts this week and 3 next week. This is a photo of me in the gym about to get some much needed resistance training:  

Yes, I take pictures of myself in the gym (when no one seems to be looking) and post it on Instagram. It's funny when there's someone behind me making an 'ugly workout face,' but today there were not that many people around. 
I want to encourage you to go out for a walk during the holidays. It will be a great habit to keep for the rest of the year! 
QUESTION • How consistent are your exercise habits during the holiday?
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NaBloPoMo: Be Still

Monday, November 19, 2012

Today's meditation started with this portion of Scripture: 
"Be still, and know that I am God" Psalm 46:10
Here's a commentary:
"Be still - The word used here - from רפה râphâh - means properly to cast down; to let fall; to let hang down; then, to be relaxed, slackened, especially the hands: It is also employed in the sense of not making an effort; not putting forth exertion; and then would express the idea of leaving matters with God, or of being without anxiety about the issue. Compare Exodus 14:13, "Stand still, and see the salvation of God." In this place the word seems to be used as meaning that there was to be no anxiety; that there was to be a calm, confiding, trustful state of mind in view of the displays of the divine presence and power. The mind was to be calm, in view of the fact that God had interposed, and had shown that he was able to defend his people when surrounded by dangers." Barns Notes on the Bible 
Today I am trying to do just that: be relaxed, cast down, still and have a greater awareness of God. I pray that you can find some time to be still today.

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NaBloPoMo: Family Gatherings - Better or Bitter?

Sunday, November 18, 2012

It's the most wonderful time of the year until we get to difficult family gatherings. My challenge this year is to be Better and not Bitter when it comes to family relationships. 
I have experienced difficult holidays in the past so this year I am voting ahead of time to be Better. I have taken my boxing gloves off. I am building bridges and I am choosing to forgive continually. When things get challenging I choose to believe that God is watching over me and making me more mature. The Bible says that all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord. Instead of being Bitter I am choosing the Better way. Some practical things I am doing this year are:
Cultivating Inner Peace - there are many ways to do that. I am praying, confessing and meditating about Peace and I am asking a few friends to pray for my inner peace during the holidays. When I have inner peace I make better choices: whether words or food, it is easier to navigate difficult family gatherings when I am at peace.
Planning Ahead - I am planning on getting 3 workouts per week, eating a healthy Thanksgiving dinner and I am also planning on drinking plenty water. I heard that if you don't plan to succeed you automatically fail. When I feel better, I can face challenging situations with more ease. Stuffing my face with pecan pie does not help me solve relationship problems. Trust me, I tried it in the past and it only made things worse.
Geting good Advice on Boundaries - I have heard some awesome teachings on Boundaries in the past and I am getting a refresher course these past few days. Thanks to the wonder of YouTube, there are amazing teachings by Chip Judd on Boundaries. Here are the links if you are interested:
Boundaries by Chip Judd: Session 1, Session 2, Session 3, Session 4 (he actually starts the teaching on Boundaries here), Session 5, Session 6, Session 7
I pray that you have a great holiday season. I pray that you will reach out to the Holy Spirit of God when no friend can be found around you. God is near and He wants you to be Better and not Bitter this holiday season. Read the Bible and be assured of God's amazing love for you and His acceptance of you. Be blessed with Peace!  


Related Posts:
Mother-in-law Relationships Series: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 
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NaBloPoMo: Mothers Day Out

Saturday, November 17, 2012

My kids started attending a Mothers Day Out program a few months ago. I have learned that at times, I'm the one getting the best lessons. I have kept my kids at home with joy and I felt that a Mothers Day Out program would benefit our entire family. I have been extremely thankful for the opportunity because it has helped all of us. I only attended college and grad school in the States so my kid's experiences in school are completely new to me. Thankfully, I can learn one day at the time.  Here are a few things I have learned so far about Mothers Day Out programs:
1. No need to dress to impress • kids go to a Mother's Day Out to have fun. My son's favorite part is playing with his friends in the playground. No need to put him on black tie to roll on the floor. Play clothes are the best because they are comfy and they can get paint and all kinds of gooey stuff in them.
2. Fundraisers • I didn't know there would be fundraisers but the school has been very wise to explain why they do fundraisers. My approach to fundraisers in general is not to stress out about it, just do what I can. I won't have a 3-year-old and a 2-year-old knocking on every door in the neighborhood nor will I  annoy friends and family about donations. I will try to find creative ways to ask for help raising funds I will be sure to use the no guilt approach.
3. Connecting with Teachers • I think that connecting with teachers is very important. My kids cannot verbalize everything that happened during the day, so I rely on the teacher to tell me about their progress in the class. This was important in the beginning when the initial transition happens but also throughout the year. I want to work with the teacher so that my child has the best experience. For example, I want to be sure my kids are obeying the teacher and following directions well. It is important to communicate with the teacher so I can work with my kids at home. 
4. Get creative with Lunch • lunch was a bit of a challenge for me until I learned what worked for the kids. Finger foods work best for this family who eats rice and beans daily. Right now I am trying to include a protein, a fruit and whole grain crackers. Sometimes I include cheese in the mix. I am not a food designer, so the lunch box is nothing impressive, just plain yummy. 
5. Connecting with other Parents • other parents in the school have been there with older kids and  have a lot of experience. I find that connecting with them is wise because they are more than willing to help me by giving me helpful information and assurance about the program. I have several MOPS friends in my kids' school, so they are my source of information and encouragement. 
QUESTION • What have you learned about Mothers Day Out programs? Any helpful advice?
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NaBloPoMo: Peers are Important

Friday, November 16, 2012

I was friendless when I arrived in Houston. I was eager to make new friends. Believe it or not, I made my first friend outside of church at the Public Library. Erika embraced me and my kids and included me in her world. I will never forget her kindness, I treasure her friendship. A couple of months later I was blessed to get into MOPS. I didn't know there was a waiting list for the group, all I know is that God made a way for me to get in. MOPS is an incredible support system. I have met so many lovely women people who are in the same season in life as I am!  
Last night I had the honor to serve with some of the ladies from our MOPS Groups at a Young Lives meeting. I heard about the group but to actually see the teen moms was an amazing experience. I was really thankful for the opportunity to serve. Here's a picture of me handling the drinks.
 This is some of the ladies from our group who were serving.
 This morning the theme of our meeting was "SPA Day." We made a couple of treats for ourselves and for the ladies from Young Lives. Here are some of the ladies putting some hard work into the lotions.
 These are my beauty products.
I've been really thankful to God for a group of peers who do not cease to love on me and support me in this season of life. They so get me. I love all my friends but I am certain that the ones who are in a different season as I am do not want to hear about my kid's every activity. My mommy peers don't mind because I want to hear all about their kid's activities: from the funny things they are saying to their sleeping habits. 
Peers are so important. There is assurance that we are not alone and that someone out there understands what I am going through. There's also a lot of encouragement that happens from peer to peer. I am thankful to God for opening the doors for me to be a part of MOPS. What an exciting season of life!
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NaBloPoMo: A Cup of Kindness

Thursday, November 15, 2012


People have a tendency of being more kind around the holidays. The challenge is to keep that good habit going throughout the year, especially when we think that people don't deserve our kindness. I am often confronted with the choice to offer A Cup of Kindness to others. In the past I have offered a piece of my (rude) mind, my (distorted) truth and the results were never good. As I grow in Christ, I am aware that I need to be spiritually minded (Romans 8:6) when dealing with others. In addition to that, Colossians 3:12 says: 
"Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience."
If I am clothed with kindness, it shouldn't be that much of a stretch to offer it to others. 
I am familiar with the "I ain't perfect" argument because I have often used it. I am even more familiar with the truth offered in Galatians 5:22-23:
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law."
A spiritually minded person who is clothed with the right things easily displays the fruit of the Spirit. 
Dear reader, what stops you from easily offering A Cup of Kindness to others? Is it anger? My problem this morning was unforgiveness. As I forgave the offense, I was able to offer kindness with much more ease!
There is a big difference in being kind because it's the popular thing to do during the holidays and habitually offering A Cup of Kindness to others. 
Can you think of someone in your life that needs a cup of Kindness? I pray that God will reveal to you the root issue that stops you from being kind to that person. I challenge you to offer A Cup of Kindness to others throughout the year. Trust me, I'll do the same. 


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NaBloPoMo: Thoughts lead to Destiny

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

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"Pay attention to your thoughts, for they become your words.
Pay attention to your words, for they become your acts.
Pay attention to your acts, for they become your habits. 
Pay attention to your habits, for they become your character.
Pay attention to your character, for it becomes your destiny." - Unknown
I've been challenged to pay attention to my thoughts and I am doing just that. As a result, I traced some results in my life that started with negative thinking. Today I am encouraged to change my thoughts by meditating on the right things. Meditating on good results does not mean you are "faking it," it means you are "practicing." Practicing is the only way to learn something for good, correct? 
Let's see how we can use thoughts to attain a healthier body. For months before I started running I would meditate on how I enjoyed running and exercising. I would actually read that confession out loud in the morning. One day I took the first step and haven't turned back to complacency in that area of my life. My mind, my thoughts needed to change in order for me to take my first step. When we change our minds, there's nothing they cannot do. I know that losing weight takes more than just changing your thoughts. It is a mindful effort and it takes strategy to accomplish that goal but it all starts in a mind that things the right thoughts. Your words, acts, habits and character will reflect that change which will lead you to a great destiny.
QUESTION • How healthy is your thought life? Are there any thoughts you can change in order to increase the quality of your life?
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NaBloPoMo: Beware of Toxic Blogging

Tuesday, November 13, 2012


I am often tempted to practice "Toxic Blogging" but I keep saying NO! What can be qualified as Toxic Blogging? 
Angry Posts - you can tell the blogger is clearly angry about something and thinks they have no other way to vent. I usually go for a run when I am angry and try to talk to someone about my problem. When you write angry posts you are treating other people's minds as a trash can. It is okay to be angry as long as you do not use it for evil. I also try not to let the sun go down on my anger.
Posts that really should be Conversations - Some bloggers are not ready (or brave enough) to have an open conversation with someone about what is making them angry, so they blog about it. Having a conversation is so beneficial because it clears the air. Even if you agree to disagree, it is healthy to at least be heard by the one who has upset you. 
Defamation - practicing Slander or libel on a blog is also qualified as Toxic Blogging. Injuring someone's reputation is very toxic. The simple answer here is to take your issues face-to-face and resolve it. Involving thousands of people all over the world in your personal problems is not fair. There are better ways to use a blog other than spreading defamation. Another thing to remember about defamation is: you reap what you sow.    
Unresolved Hurts - I don't believe that time heals all wounds. I think that untreated wounds get worse with time. I don't enjoy looking at untreated wounds, much less reading them on a blog. Most people would encourage someone with an untreated wound to run to a hospital before complications kill them. Writing about unresolved hurts with no intention of healing is very toxic. I understand that not every hurt can be easily mended. It takes courage to blog about your journey to healing. It may take years of counseling, therapy, support groups or whatever else. It takes courage to get healing and readers can get inspired and learn from that.

My prayer is that I can spread hope as a blogger, no matter what. I am often tempted to practice Toxic Blogging but I will continue to say No for the sake of helping those of you who read my posts often. 
QUESTION • Have you practiced Toxic Blogging? How did it work for you?


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NaBloPoMo: Differences in Marriage

Monday, November 12, 2012

Much like mixing oil and vinegar, differences tend to rise to the surface when you get married. My husband and I spent our dating years focusing on our similarities but that changed as our marriage began. I believe that it takes getting married for someone to realize how different they are from their spouse. Differences in marriage shouldn't annoy a person who is seeking excellency in marriage. The key is to use differences to build your marriage relationship. Here are three ways to do that:

Study your Spouse • because my husband is so different from me, I chose to became a "student" of his. When I do my homework correctly, I get to know him better thus loving him with better (qualitatively speaking). We dated for 1 year and were engaged for 1 year, which means that most of our interactions have happened while married. I have learned a lot in the past 6 years and I am looking forward to loving him better as I continue to study my husband. Some of the subjects I study are his personality, his love language and his fashion style. If you think about it, there are many other ways of being a student of your spouse.
Enjoy the New • My husband's world collided with mine when we got married. The great thing is that we both began to experience new things. When he visited my hometown in Brasil he experienced so many new things that were part of my upbringing such as going to the bakery daily and going to the beach. Likewise, I continue to experience new things the more I am married to Zeke: from going to jazz festivals to enjoying his favorite 80s TV shows. These experiences have only been possible because we are so different. The memories create a greater sense of unity.
Celebrate as a Habit • When we appreciate the distinctive qualities of our spouse we begin to celebrate them. The key is to make it a habit. Some married people speak negative things about their spouse as a habit. The ability to celebrate the distinguishing characteristics of your spouse can also become a very good habit. When you are honoring your spouse's  singularity as a habit, you are really honoring them. Honor goes straight to the heart of the one you love and it contributes to a lifelong, healthy marriage.  

I encourage you to use your differences to compliment your spouse. Begin to study your spouse, enjoy the new experiences along the way and celebrate as a habit. 
QUESTION  • Before reading this post, what were your views on Differences in Marriage? How can you use the differences in your marriage to build a stronger marriage?
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NaBloPoMo: Weight Loss Plateau and Guilt

Sunday, November 11, 2012

When the scale stops moving there are two clear choices: guilt or peace. I have chosen the way of peace. Feeling guilty and condemned only bring anxiety and stress. Here's a 1-minute video of a series I started a few months ago telling you more about why I have chosen not to partner with guilt.



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