Mid-year Goals: reflective questions and answers

Wednesday, July 6, 2022

What did you get curious about? • How to be effective with my weight loss and fitness journey.

What did you get over? • The pain of rejection. 

What did you good at? • Push ups

What did you embrace? • A new home state.

What did you rediscover? • My freedom to be friendly.

What did you surrender to? • God’s perfect will for my life.

What did you sacrifice? • My opinion

What did you sideline? • Some goals for the year.

What did you survive? • I’d say spiritual attacks.

What did you celebrate? • My children and my husband.

Contemplate. Take time to ponder:

What did this year teach you about your capacity for courage? • God builds courage as He breaks down pride and rejection. A surrendered heart is a better vessel for courage as I serve God and family.

What risks did you take? How did they work out? • I’m not ready to talk about details but I’m more peaceful and sensitive to the things of God.

What did this year teach you about relationships? love? your capacity for forgiveness? • Relationships are what we make them. True love comes from God. My family loves me beyond measure and without prerequisites. Every Christian is commanded to forgive. Forgiveness is a choice I gladly exercise.

What particular synchronicities did you notice? • I’m not ready to talk about this yet. I will save it for a book.

Where did you bring light to the darkness for someone? • I cried a lot in parking lots when I was leaving Longview. My friends told me that I mean a lot to them and they told me why. I was undone. I will forever treasure those words of friendship and blessing. The truth is, they are the ones that brought light into my life.

When were you generous? How did that serve you? • Generosity is something I hope to be continuously. I believe that I look more like my Heavenly Father when I am generous.

Did you neglect yourself in any way? was there a time when you did not allow yourself something you needed? If a similar situation arises this year, what will you tell yourself? • I often neglected myself of rest or a meaningful pause before launching into the next demanding assignment in life. I need to remind myself in writing that it is okay to pause, pray, reflect, breath and go on.

Of all the places where you spent time, which environment made you the most calm? where did you have your best ideas? • I’m the most calm when I’m in Zeke’s arms. I’m calm when I’m at home taking care of our family. I’m also calm after CrossFit. My best ideas happened when I turn everything off and I use my brain to think.

What changes did you notice in your loved ones? • My sweet kids are growing taller and growing in wisdom and love.

What went on in the world that really affected you? what did that teach you in your role in wider society? • The world is often changing. God remains the same. I’m committed to be an agent of the Lord Jesus Christ daily. God so loved the world that He sent us Jesus. I’m determined to represent Jesus everywhere I go. 

What did this year teach you about the preciousness of life? • The Bible is my anchor. I keep going back daily to read it, study and think about what I learn. God is the creator and initiator of life. I am learning through the study of the Biblke what God cares about so I can dedicate myself to it.


What did you create or made happen this year? • I’d say Zeke and I made a new home in Georgia.

What brought you the most satisfaction? • I’m satisfied seeing our kids walk with God and fulfilling His calling for their lives. 

What was money well spent and when did you waste money? • Money well spent went to things that will help our children be everything God called them to be. I think money waste happens when I don’t manage it as well as I should.

What was the best use of your time and energy? Where did you waste time and energy? • I think that getting healthier is a great use of time and energy. My family is my priority. It is easier to serve God and family when I am healthier. I waste time when I refuse to forgive offenses and let them go.

What was a real success for you and why? What did you learn from that? • Moving was successful because God called us to move. I learned that where God calls He provides.

What didn't work out as you hoped? Why? What did you learn from that? • My efforts to find a job before I moved. Only God knows why. I don’t care to find out. I learned to trust God’s leadership.

What or who was a challenge? Why? What did you learn from that? • Unforgiveness was a challenge. I believe that in my humanity, I don’t want to obey God’s commandment to forgive. I learned that Jesus was the perfect sacrifice. I feel great freedom after I forgave. If Jesus can forgive, so can I.

What was the single most important thing you did for your physical health? • Stick with WW and CrossFit, no matter what.

What was the single most important thing you did for your mental health? • Journaling and running. 

If you could sum up the year in a single word, what would it be? • Better

Letting go:

Write down things you want to let go • extra body weight, regrets.

Moving forward:

When did you allow yourself to be vulnerable over the past 12 months? What did you learn in the process? • I allowed myself to cry a lot. I believe they help show us who we really are.

What do you want to carry with you in the new year? • Faith in God.

What truths are you ready to start believing? • God can do exceedingly, abundantly above all I can ask or imagine.

What are you ready to receive? • God’s best.

Time to make a plan. 

* from "Calm Christmas and a Happy New Year" by Beth Kempton. 

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Tuesday, July 5, 2022

I had a fun Live video today! The topic was diligence. You can watch it here.


How can I be diligent in my prayer life today?

How can I be diligent in my Bible study?
How can I be diligent in my household chores?
How can I be diligent in my physical fitness?
How can I be diligent in my eating and drinking water?
How can I be diligent in my family life?

What is God calling me to do? How can I be diligent in that area?
What will this call of God require of me? Be specific. 

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Aim for something good

Wednesday, June 29, 2022

If you aim for nothing, you will hit it every time. Zig Ziglar is the originator of this quote. I believe it with all my heart. I often feel I aim too high. Take my athletic endeavors for example. Most people discouraged me from running marathons. I decided distance running was for me and I invested in it for years. 

I invested in running with time, training, group running commitments and prayers. How I prayed for God's grace, for health, and for those running alongside me. God answered my prayers. I have 7 marathon medals as answers to some of those prayers. 

3 months ago we moved to Georgia. Moving is one of the number one stressors in the first world. It is "good stress" but it is still stress. 

I decided not to let my health goals go down the drain because of the move. I enjoyed my last months and weeks in Texas. I got in line in the cold and I bought a plate of award-winning Texas barbecue. I enjoyed  CrossFit workouts and running with friends. I thought about the good. I had dinner with neighbors and enjoyed their food and friendship. 

I planned for the trip to Georgia. I made healthy choices for food on the go and we had plenty of healthy snacks available. When we arrived, we were showered with the generosity of so many new friends and neighbors. 

We were delighted with the meals we received. Goodness, Georgia cooks are something else! As soon as the pressure of those first few weeks died down, we started to cook our own familiar foods. 

I told myself I'd make my rounds and visit as many boxes as possible before deciding on where I'd make myself at home. Well, there are so many boxes in this area. I made my rounds. I paid attention to the culture. I decided BGB was the box for me. Then, Zeke joined to make matters better. We have never been in better shape. Our coaches are dedicated to seeing us succeed. Our fellow CrossFit athletes are so welcoming and encouraging. 

I decided not to take a break from healthy habits just because I was moving. It paid off big time. How so? 

I decided to aim for something. 

I will confess, during the past 3 months I should have been easier on myself at times. Still, I'm glad I had an aim.

Let me make this more practical by showing you how exactly I set my aim.

1 • I planned my food and exercise for the week • each week was different. Some were more challenging than others. We had to jump through a couple of hurdles a lot of times. Still, knowing what I was eating and how much exercising I was doing was very important. 

2 • I analyzed each week by writing down 3 things that made me successful and 3 things that needed improvement • I would write these things in my journal every Saturday. If I don't stop to analyze the week, I won't be effective in the progress I planned. Once I have this complete view of my week, I plan my menu for the week and I plan how many days I will workout. 

Simple. Plan and analyze. Rinse and repeat. 

My plan 3 months ago was to lose weight. I was so close to reaching my WW goal. Life happened. I gained a little bit and I lost a little bit. Stress happened. I gained a little bit again. I encouraged myself by attending my WW virtual meetings. I spoke with my CrossFit coaches. I relied on my husband's encouragement too. 

The past 2 weeks have been stressful. I decided not to weigh myself compulsively. I knew that approach of being scale-focused backfires. Instead, I relied on giving myself to CrossFit. We were at the end of a 12-week cycle. I followed the coach's advice. I put in the work. I got stronger. I needed to give myself a chance to see how far all the training and nutrition was going to take me. 

I went from a 195-pound deadlift to a 210-pound deadlift. My back squat and shoulder press numbers were crazy to me. I was so happy and thankful to God for the improvement. 

I asked myself, "where do I go from here?" The natural answer was: back to your original health goal. You will see a normal BMI number. Just keep rinsing and repeating. 

This morning, after a joyful CrossFit workout, I decided to see where I was as far as the scale. During my most stressful times these past 3 months, my weight went all the way up pass what I'm comfortable with. Today, I'm 8 lbs lighter than that highest weight. 

I am 6 lbs away from reaching my WW goal weight. 

While there is some work to be done, I can rejoice in the fact that I did not give up. I faced stress, rejection, and other problems with the courage God granted me. I felt my feelings, I didn't feed them. I decided to melt them during CrossFit in the form of sweat.

It all started with the decision to aim for something. I'm proof that Zig Ziglar was right. If you aim for nothing, you will hit it every time. So let's aim for something specific.
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Healthy lifestyle similarities

Tuesday, June 28, 2022


Today I speak about how my experiences with moving are similar to adopting a healthy lifestyle. 

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3 months of Georgia

Monday, June 27, 2022

Today we have been celebrating 3 months of living in Georgia.

The kids said it feels like we have been here longer. I agree. I like today's date because a wise friend told me that you feel a "switch" at month 3 after you move. 

Month 3 arrived softly this time. Peace has been the main feeling of being here at home. I am grateful.

Today was a regular Monday for us. I went to CrossFit. I didn't feel like going but all the preparation around me made it easier to show up and put in the work. I went back a second time in the afternoon to get some sports performance help. I'm grateful that we found a great CrossFit community. It's been better than I could have imagined. 

The kids had swim team practice this morning. We love having this as part of our summer routine. 

The church has been an incredible blessing. Everyone we met has been loving, honest and generous. We are deeply grateful to God. Serving Jesus is a joy.

Gratitude is the landmark I want to remember this month 3. I have so much to thank God for. No, life is not perfect. Still, my good days outweigh my bad days and I will not complain. 

Discovering Georgia has been fun. Just yesterday we sporadically found a nice spot for a family hangout. I know there are so many more places to see.

Adapting to a new hometown takes time. It is always a blessing when a house feels like home, a city feels like a community and a church feels like family.

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