Marathon Training: Weeks 1-3

Marathon season is upon us! After a 2-year sabbatical, I am back training for a marathon. This will my 6th marathon. My goal is to get as close to my PR as possible (5:14), injury-free.

I've been preparing myself for 2 years. I cut down the mileage and I got leaner. My goal is run efficiently and smarter than before.

Another new thing is that I am one of the head coaches for our local running group. I also lead a week day run group. I really enjoy coaching because I get to see people reach their goals and improve the quality of their lives.

This is Week 3 of training. Our plan calls for a good 29-30 weeks of training. We start with 2 miles and we will complete 26.2 miles come marathon day.

I am challenging myself, my assistant coaches and our runners not to be the same runner from last year. If we want different results, our approach to training needs to be different.

The key is to "Commit to the Plan." What plan? The training plan. The plan is the map that will guide us to our desired location: the finish line of the Chevron Houston Marathon. When we commit to the plan, we put it the training necessary. When we commit to the plan, we make sure that our schedules reflect the lifestyle of a marathon runner.

We train in the Houston, Texas area and it is super hot and humid. I am drinking plenty water as well as electrolytes in order to have what it takes to complete our training runs.

I hope you can join me in this journey! Instead of blogging weekly as I've done in the past, I'll blog every 3 to 4 weeks. I also hope to include some helpful tips on marathon training. 

8 years of Houston: Lessons Learned

God blessed us by bringing us to Houston 8 years ago. Each year, I pause and reflect on the lessons learned. Each year, I realize how incredibly good God is to us. 

Tough seasons teach us resilience - I had difficult jobs in these past 8 years. I learned resilience. I learned not to allow those who want to harm me to have control over my life. I remember being in a difficult assignment. It was shortly after I found out it was going to be difficult. I decided to take care of my health, so I started losing weight. I decided to take care of my inner life. I chose a Bible verse to think about when the going got tough. God surprised me with an open door at the end of that season. I learned once again that I can be resilient if I know that God sees and He takes care of me. I also learned that if I don’t take care of my health, no one else will. 

Kids have the right perspective - Our kids hear stories about our family's walk with God and they have a different perspective than we do. They love, trust, laugh, play  and live for today with incredible hope for tomorrow. When we go through hard times, I watch our kids closely. A few years ago, they could care less that we were in transition. Other than not giving them details, because we don’t believe in encouraging them to be anxious, we did share that we were praying about our next assignment. Once they said “amen,” the joy and the games continued. I had a visual of what “life is a continual feast” looked life. The kids taught me that my attitude about my Heavenly Father needed to be the same. I trust Him and I want to trust Him as our children joyfully trust us. 

Something new - God opened incredible doors of opportunity these past years. Even our enemies were surprised. “They must really want you there,” they said. I honestly didn’t know what to say other than “God is sending me there.” I was told many years ago that God would do something new in my life. He would use me in an area that was completely new. Well, here I am. I learned to trust God’s ability to move and arrange things without me. He who sees the end from the beginning is the master connector. He brought us here and He decides how we can best serve Him. 

A different type of Preaching - I learned that as I close my Bible, I open up my life to others. I’m not sure if God will call me to work at a church. For years I thought I would end up at a church but now I am really happy working in academia. There is no Bible quoting outside of church and home. People are really looking for “results.” People outside of church study character and they know a phony when they see one. If you say Jesus is your Savior, they basically wait and see how you act daily. I learned that some of us, working in the secular world, can’t hide behind our Bibles. Our lives are wide open for others to see it. That’s actually good. I learned that God often uses people who rely on Him to be present in the absence of religious paraphernalia. What we really have is the life we choose to live. This type of lifestyle requires sensitivity to the Holy Spirit. It requires being open and honest with all people, no matter how they choose to live their lives. It requires good listening skills. It requires the assurance that God has an assignment for me in my workplace. Living and working in the secular world has taught me to take a deep breath and ask God, “what do you want me to express in this situation?” He might want to encourage the other person with hope. The fact is that some of us are called to serve in secular places like Daniel and Joseph once were. God needs His best people working excellently in the secular world. There’s no hiding behind our Bibles. There is quite a bit of walking out what we believe as we rely on God’s Spirit. 

Some Friendships are hard to keep - I wrote extensively about this the other day. I experienced waves of people in and out of my life. There are a lot of friends who are seasonal: when the small group (or church job) is over, we no longer see each other. There are friends who come to me out of convenience: once their life crisis is over, they go silent. I also understand that our family serves in a ministry where you are there for people in times of need. I remember grieving a few years ago with the loss of two major people in my life. Because we are in ministry, one of the sheep had priority. All the prayers and attention went to the sheep. Good thing God didn’t forget about me. A group of friends noticed me and did something so beautiful to celebrate the lives Heaven gained. I’m forever grateful. 

Invest in connections outside of church - I learned that the church can’t be my everything. I tried to find friends in church when we first moved to Texas but they were either busy or I wasn’t their kind of person (I didn’t have the same hobbies for example). I learned to reach outside of the church for connections. I think that was one of the best things I’ve done outside of caring for my family. When I reached outside of church for friendships and connections, I no longer had to depend on one group of people to be part of my social circle. I also had a wealth of groups and friends who truly enhanced my life. These friends don’t see me as the pastor’s wife. They have a different view of who I am which helps make our friendship easier. I say that because when people see you as a pastor’s wife only, their mind brings up good or bad stereotypes which they project on you. When people see you as a person who is friendly, they give you a chance to be yourself without all the baggage some titles naturally carry. Investing in connections outside of the church is an easy thing to do. You just have to persist until you find your people. 

More in this Series:
• 7 years of Houston: Discovery
• 6 years of Houston: adapting to a new community
• 5 years of Houston: stuff I can say

• 4 years of Houston: reflections of a pastor’s wife

• 3 years of Houston: how my roots grew deep

• Pastor’s wife - purpose and security

• Hope during transition

• Transition and the dorm room

• Transitioning from SAHM to Working Mom

• Isolation

• While I wait: do something

• While I wait: finding balance

Mid-year Goal Check Up

We are 165 days away from the end of the year. I know. It can be either good or bad. It depends on your outlook. 

I am choosing to look at the possibilities ahead of me. A lot of those possibilities are cleverly hidden behind my goals for the year. 

I set two goals in each of the following categories: Faith, Family, Fitness, Business and Other.

My faith goals are going well but I need to be more intentional about spiritual discipline. 

My family goals allow me to spend more quality time with my family. So far, so good. I also like the fact that I don’t get to cross it off my list. My eagerness to give my family my best continues. 

I reached one of my fitness goals, the other one, I am on track to complete it. Every day, I remind myself of how everything I do can take me closer or further away from my goal. 

My business goals are pretty bold. I’m not sure I will reach them but I’m proud of the person who set them. 

I started the Other category when my goal didn’t fit the previous ones. One of them I already reached (stop orchestrating my birthday). The goal is to only use my time to advance my goals. I really needed to be reminded of that. 

I’m not sure if 2019 has been kind to you. Some seasons are tough. The reality is, you can start again. You can take the first step and you can continue to make progress towards your goals. You have what it takes.

Why is keeping friends so difficult?

Keeping friends seems difficult sometimes. 

Specially when you are doing all the work. 

You initiate all the communication.

You ask for a face-to-face - and you often get a “no” or “I’m busy.”

You start to wonder why. You quickly switch to past memories. 

Often “when” you get together happens at a convenient time for the other person. 

If the situation is inconvenient for them, keeping the friendship becomes difficult. 

Keeping friends is difficult when they are so wrapped up in themselves, they overlook your needs. 

Keeping friends is difficult in a ‘group of friends’ situation. 

Some individuals demand more attention than others. 

Others gravitate to those who are better, prettier, richer than you. 

Mob mentality often reigns and for the sake of peace, you go on. 

Keeping friends is difficult when the distance erases bonds that were near and dear. 

Not even technology can replicate the good times. 

As the years roll by, all you get is a social media like, if that. 

Lately, I decided that while keeping friends can be difficult, I’m a good friend. 

I also decided that while I believe the best, people make time for what’s most important to them. 

I believe that if you keep turning me down, you are sending me the message that I am not important. 

You are sending the message that I no longer have something you need so we are done. 

I’m okay with all of that. 

I’m also pleased with the fact that I am a good friend and I was built to be in honest relationships. 

It is true that I can’t change people. I can’t change difficult friendships. I can and I will be myself everywhere I go. 

If some friends leave, that’s okay, I will treasure those who choose to stay.

MWLISS: Is running ruining my weight loss?

What a silly thing to ask. If you are a runner, aren't you supposed to be thin?

I wish that was true for me. I lost weight after my youngest was born. I discovered marathon running shortly after I recovered from my c-section. I was in love and determined to remain in the sport. 

I had several seasons of stress. Slowly, the weight creeped up: 10, 20, 32 pounds extra. They affected my runs. I got slower and running was difficult. 

I decided to take control of my health. I took a few years and now I eliminated most of the weight I gained. I'm on my way to having a normal BMI and I'm so glad about it. 

The short answer to the original question is yes and no. A professional once told me that eating for weight loss and eating for long distance running are two different things. I agree. I also know that athletes everywhere try to get lean so they can race more efficiently. It can be done. 

The major way that running ruined my weight loss can be described in three words: sense of entitlement. I'd say things like: "I just ran 18 miles, I can eat whatever I want." 

I spoke to my doctor, who told me I was overestimating the extra amount of calories my body needs for the days I run. She told me exactly what to do. My goal is to follow her advice this running season. 

I also believed the popular saying "we run to eat." Yesterday, I realized that the best way is to live out the words "we eat to run." When I ran to eat, I incrementally gained 32 pounds. I am now eating to run and it is benefiting my health, my runs and my entire life.

When I eat to run, I eat real foods that are good for my body and my brain. When I eat to run, I make choices that will make my runs more effective. Sure I will allow myself to live in the real world. You better know there's a homemade chocolate cake with my name on it as an occasional treat. I believe in learning from my mistakes. I have learned that self-control and balance is what I want to practice.

I'm here to tell you that I won't let running ruin my weight loss. Running is a powerful tool to lead me to a healthier life. As I eat to run and I correctly fuel those runs, I will reach my goal.

Stats:
WW start weight: 175 lbs
Current: 151 lbs
First Goal: 150 lbs
Second Goal: 146 lbs
Third Goal: 136 lbs

Previously in this Series:
• First week of WW
• WW Speak
• Premeditated Portion Control 
• Weights and Measures
• Time
• Carbs & WW
• Proof of Weight Loss
• Why I started

• Preparation

• Fear
• Daily Choices

Lessons at 39

No, it's not my birthday. I'm exactly thirty-nine and a half. I can look back and see how good God has been to me. In the past few years, I've learned some useful lessons I'd love to share.  

1 • Find Community - finding your people makes everything easier. Once you find them, cultivate those friendships. Your community shouldn't be all located in one place. Spread the love. You will be glad you did.

2 • Rest is Best - I wasn't a big fan of resting until I needed to. I'm sold on the idea and I carve daily time to make sure I rest. Rest makes me more productive. I am healthier when I rest. You can't put it on a pill, you just have to do it.

3 • Read for Pleasure - I have always enjoyed reading. I went through an intense time (college and grad school) when I learned to read in a different level. I now make time to read. I get creative and I cut down on the unnecessary so that reading can happen. Even if all I have is 15 minutes, the investment is great.

4 • Teach intentionally - I'm thinking about my childhood and I realized my parents and grandparents were very intentional about what they taught me. I am doing the same for my kids. It was as if they were training me to be the adult I now am, I just didn't know it. Character doesn't happen on a vacuum. It takes intentional teachers who model what they teach daily.

5 • Have a plan - Don't underestimate the power of a plan. Planning gives me direction and margin in life. I tried to be rigid about my planning, so the next tip needs to be used with this one.

6 • Be flexible - I didn't know what being flexible was until a few year ago. Family life has a way of drilling flexibility into your being. Plans don't often happen without the need of flexibility. Being flexible grows me as a mature woman of God.

7 • You come first - I can't give what I don't have. I have learned that I come first. It is not about being selfish. It is about being the best I can be so that I can do all the things God called me to do. When I come first, I pray, I rest, I exercise, I eat well, I care for myself. Everyone benefits from all of these things.

8 • Invest in marriage - The most important relationship I have requires great investment. I'm thankful my husband invests in me, in himself and in our marriage. We're both not afraid of asking for outside help when we need it.

9 • Manage stress - It is no worth living with the side effects of stress. Learning how to manage stress is one of the wisest things I do in life.

10 • Grow in your knowledge of God - I am persuaded that I need to grow in my knowledge of God. I don't know everything about Him. Everything new (and old) I learn leads me to realize that He is better than I expect it.

What are your life lessons thus far?

Summer Reading Mistakes

I started the summer like most people: optimistic. It didn't help that I listened to different podcasts about readings. I always encourage my children to read. I'm a reader myself. I tell them that readers are leaders and leaders are readers.

Still, I wasn't crazy about the quality of the books they picked for themselves during the school year. I tried to introduce them to different types of literature, which was successful. My plan was to crack it up during the summer and make sure they only read classic works or things I judged to be "good for their brain."

Well, they were not crazy about my suggestions. I wasn't crazy about them either. It turns out, this foreign mother did not grow up reading the American (or the Brazilian) classics. I turned out alright tough. I found some suggestions and I put them on hold. When the books arrived, the kids and I were surprised that they were 400 pages long.

To make matters worse, I wasn't sure if I wanted to make sure they read those classic pieces of literature.

Thankfully, I heard a podcaster suggest that I let my children pick and I let them read in their level or on a level bellow. It's no fun to have to read with a dictionary all the time. After my "wow" moment, I apologized to the kids. I told them about what I learned. I told them that I still wanted them to read one instead of 10 books that I chose (I know, I'm intense) and we will celebrate their reading of that book with a hamburger date for the boys to discuss the book and a tea party for the girls.

Another mistake I made, I committed twice. The first time happened when I tried to read a book that I wanted to read but I couldn't. I'd try for a week or two and then return it. Once I got the audio version, it was easier to listen. I got a book for the kids I really want them to read. It is not happening. I discovered there is an audio version. We are going to get that and enjoy it in the evenings this summer.

I'm glad I made those mistakes because I wouldn't learn the difference otherwise. My mistakes caused me to analyze why I want my children to read. They also made me think about asking the kids why do they think reading is important. Their answers also gave me a good insight into their thoughts on reading. It also opened up conversations about what reading can do.

One thing is for sure: reading is just not a habit that is going to fall out of heaven. I must be intentional about guiding my children in this wonderful journey.

I am grateful that Bible reading is something we all enjoy. We included a few Bible books in our summer reading challenge. It is good for the soul, now and for eternity.

When someone does not believe in you

Sometimes, someone does not believe in you.
It may be a friend.
It may be an authority figure.
It may even be a teacher.

When someone does not believe in you
You cry
You do it because it hurts
You didn't want to be a disappointment

When someone does not believe in you

You fly

You show your potential 

It is due to the gift inside  

When someone does not believe in you

Don't ignore your feelings

They simply alert you of an inner reality

When someone does not believe in you

Don't stop moving

You're doing something right

That's why criticism arrives 

When someone does not believe in you

Try harder 

Reach higher 

Go further.

You will eventually prove them wrong. 

When you do, it will no longer matter

If they don't believe in you

Because you believe in yourself.