Friday, November 16, 2018

A little bit of everything

Hello there friends! 

I thought about giving you an update on all things real life here. 

A few months ago, I received a lot of questions about friendships. I was working on an eBook called "Finding your Tribe" and the questions helped me close the book with a golden key as we say in Brazil. My eBook is available for purchase now. If you are looking for a good read during the holiday season and throughout the year, buy a copy and share the good news with your friends. Thank you for your support! 

Season 1 of the Simply Cintia Podcast is coming to an end. Next week, the topic is "the anatomy of friendships." All the previous episodes are available now so listen, review and share the word with your friends. 
I haven't decided if I am going to record season 2 yet. The support for season 1 hasn't matched my expectations so this just might be a one and done. If you listened, reviewed and supported the Podcast, thank you very much. If you haven't, there is still time. Thank you for your continuing support of!

I have always loved the Thanksgiving holiday. Whether we are at home or traveling, the season requires preparation from me. I begin by preparing my heart. The kids and I have been practicing thankfulness daily. I told them that we need to be thankful year round, not just on Thanksgiving. Being thankful in all circumstances is challenging. This week, for example, I had to look in the mirror and tell myself I couldn't be thankful and cranky at the same time. God has been great to us and I adjusted my attitude to His immense goodness. 

My home always needs adjustments during the holidays. The rhythm is different in a home with small kids. My desire is to be sure we enjoy our home during the holidays. I can't obsess with perfection. I am doing all I can to get things organized but my heart is to have a cozy, welcoming, enjoyable home during the holiday season. I wrote a post called "how I make my home cozy." The plan is to practice all of these methods to enjoy our home during the holiday season. 

My focus is family and home because I'm not a big fan of shopping. I shop by necessity and I am very determined not to stay in a store longer than needed. You won't see me at the mall during the holiday season (or any other time). I'm the person who does all she can so she stays away from shopping centers. I'm also a saver by nature, I guess that explains a lot about me. 

I am making peace with my 2018 goals and I am working towards dreaming for 2019. This process hasn't been easy. I don't know why I decided to be harsh with my 2018 results. I'm quickly getting over it so I can find contentment and thankfulness. It has been a fantastic year and I am eager to keep pushing until December 31. I also believe that while most the year is gone, I can still make progress. 
If you haven't started thinking about your 2019 goals, you should. Don't wait until January. 

Thank you for reading my blog this year. I have been doing this for 15 years and I have no plans for stopping. Writing is a joy. My aim is to spread hope online, one word at a time. 

Thursday, November 15, 2018

New eBook!

I have a new eBook!
I am thankful to everyone who sent in questions and supported me in this project.

In this eBook I answer the following questions:

How do I find my tribes?

What happens when a friendship dies?
How do you keep your frenemies away from you?

And many more!

Thank you for your support!

You can buy it here

Wednesday, November 14, 2018

An honest look at my Goals

This is the time of year I take a realistic look at my 2018 goals and I set my 2019 goals.
I often have mixed feelings about my results.
One thing is for sure: if I aim at nothing, I will hit it every time.

I have learned to be more realistic about the things I can accomplish.
I simplified my goals for 2018 and that was wise.
I also know that giving up on difficult goals does not match my personality.

I divided my goals into the following categories:

Faith - Family - Fitness - Business - Other

My Faith goals help me with the "discipline" part of 'spiritual discipline." I admit that spiritual discipline doesn't happen magically. I have to set goals and persevere in my daily habit of seeking God as a priority.

My Family goals help me to put quality in the time I have with my family. The years I have with the kids are short. They grow up quickly and they launch sooner than I realize. These years must matter. I also have goals for my marriage. I see marriage as the most precious relationship in my life. A lot of work goes into it and I'm glad about it.

My Fitness goals help me make progress in an area that isn't too difficult for me. It hasn't always been like this. I remember dreaming about running 11 years ago. I remember saying that one day, I would run and be active. Well, here I am so I can't coast now.

My Business goals help me make advances in an area that is challenging. This whole journey hasn't been easy. I knew it wouldn't be easy, yet, I am thinking about totally giving up on this pursuit. If failure is part of the process, I might need a trophy. The only joy I have is that I honestly tried. It hurts to think about it too much so I am choosing to move on. I appreciate your prayers in this area. I would give you more details but my frustration level is high.

"Other" is a category I created so I can add goals that do not fit in the previous four. I only have one item there. I said that in 2018 I would like to "keep the good friends I have." Rejection has been part of the friendship journey for me. It comes in different forms. There isn't enough time for me to explain what I've learned from being rejected over the years. I decided to focus on the positive. I also decided that God has graciously given me good friends. I decided to give my time to those friendships. I am pretty sure I will experience more rejection (ugh!) in the future. I just needed one year to remind myself that a few good friends in the journey of life are more important than a massive amount.

2018 has taught me that writing down goals is only part of the process. A lot of hard work goes into living my daily life. I have learned to leverage my strength so that I have the energy for what's important: my interactions with my family.

Oh, I never even told you about my professional life. It's been an amazing year, glory be to God! Life is multifaceted and my goals help me make multiple areas work well.

I know I can't win in every front. As long as my priorities are in order, I'll call it a good year.

I challenge you to take an honest look at your 2018 goals before you launch into 2019. No matter the results, remember, you have what it takes to reach your goals. 

Sunday, November 11, 2018

Episode 9: Maximize your Life with Connie Gomez

Episode 9: Maximize your life with Connie Gomez

"How does she do it all?" is a question Connie Gomez, co-founder of Houston Latina Bloggers and creator of the Mama of Dos website hears a lot.
She stops by and tells us that we can maximize our lives by using her principles for productivity.

Here are a few things we covered in our conversation:

• FOMO is real. How do we say "no for now" graciously;
• Learn what your limits are;
• Tips for blogging and social media;
Blog Elevated website

Here is how to keep in touch with Connie!
Mama of Dos
Houston Latina Bloggers website

You can support me by listening to the Podcast, giving me a 5-star review, spreading the word and making a donation. Thank you!

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Saturday, November 10, 2018

Life Questions

Not every question will be answered in life. It doesn't mean we can't ask them. Here are a few of the questions I have thus far this year.

  • Will this (insert difficult situation) ever pass?
  • Why can't we all be loved for who we are instead of wanted for what we can offer?
  • I don't have tattoos. Will God use me?
  • I don't mix my faith with other faiths. Will God still use me?
  • I'm a woman who lives in America. Will God still use me? 
  • These people are clearly throwing me under the bus. Is it time to let go of this shallow friendship?
  • This person is clearly against me. How can I live what I believe and repay evil with good?
  • They meant it for evil. Will God work it out for good?
  • This person only speaks with me because they want access to a key relationship in my life. How can I maintain a clean heart anyhow?
  • It is not popular to stand in my confidence but I've been called to do so. How can I remain in that space?
  • I have nothing to prove. How can I thrive among people who feel like they have a lot to prove?
There are many more questions. We all have multiple questions in our minds. They might not be all answered. It doesn't mean we can't ask them. God is certainly listening and He is full of wisdom.

Fashion Daily

I'm amazed at how my sense of fashion changes every year.
During my stay-at-home mom years, I lived in exercise clothes but I dressed up on weekends (because, church).
Once I became a working mom, I retired my tights and business casual was the way to go.

Each job I had required a different type of dress code. I'm thankful there was always room for creativity and comfort.

This year, I was blessed with a new job and I realized that again, I had a chance to establish my sense of fashion.

I enjoy being comfortable. I also enjoy dressing up on occasion. My fashion choices for 2018 have reflected these two facts.

Another thing I've enjoyed in 2018 are trips to the thrift store. My job changed allowed me to find a new area of shops. It's been great finding frugal treasures there.

Last weekend, I found a bunch of clothes on clearance for $2. I couldn't be happier. I also found comfy shoes. Thrifting has been great. Oh, I also maintain the one in one out rule. If one piece of clothing comes in, we need to donate (or sell) something else.

My fashion goal is to represent my God and my family well. I will never be a fashion model but I model my Lord Jesus everywhere I go. Okay, I am a model for my kids. They watch me and we often talk about fashion.

The most important fashion accessory I have is a confident and modest heart. 

Peace is ours

If life was a University, I decided to major in Peace 13 years ago. Life was good yet, I went through many changes. The lack of peace was catching up with me and was affecting my health.
God taught me valuable lessons I still practice today. Year after year, I've used these principles in order to have peace and to live in peace.

Peace starts on the inside

You can't give what you don't have. I can't be a peaceful person if I don't have peace on the inside. For years, I thought that peace was going to fall on my lap. I couldn't be more wrong. I learned that my journey to peace started with surrendering to God and allowing Him to change me from the inside out.

Jesus is the Prince of peace

I read the Bible because I wanted to know what God thinks about the topic of peace. It turns out, Jesus is the Prince of Peace. Isaiah 9:6 is a prophecy announcing the birth of Jesus. In it, we learn that Jesus will be called Prince of Peace. I have learned to take this title seriously. I can't find peace outside of its very Prince. Jesus spoke about peace. One of my favorite verses is John 14:27:

"Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid."

I meditate a lot on this scripture. I learned that I play a part. I can't let my heart be troubled or afraid.

We are to pursue peace

I really thought that peace was going to fall on my lap. Psalm 34:14 proved me wrong.

"Depart from evil and do good; Seek peace and pursue it."

I developed the habit of seeking peace and pursuing it. I can say that my life improved because of it. To keep it simple, I seek God first. I physically rest and recharge. I pay attention to my thought life. I guard what enters my mind and I make sure that God's word has the priority in my mind. There's more but these simple steps have made a difference in my life. I'm thankful.

We are to live in peace with others

"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." Romans 12:18
I appreciate the brilliance of God's word. The verse clearly states, "if it is possible, as far as it depends on you." We can only do our part. We can't change others. We are only responsible for ourselves.
This can be complicated but trust me, I've been there. Following God's wisdom is worth the initial discomfort. He doesn't want you to be mistreated. He wants you to be free. When we live with peace with others, as far as it depends on us, we are free.

Peace is ours. It is ours for the taking. Jesus is the Prince of peace and He wants you to pursue Him.