Leaders in the Home Front: Turning Frustration into Gratification

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Leaders are everywhere. From playgrounds to board rooms, one can easily identify people who naturally take leadership in life. I call men and women who take care of their children at home “leaders in the home front” because they display and practice leadership principles that not only make their lives more efficient but impacts the lives of their families for generations. Today, I continue my new series “Leaders in the Home Front” tackling the topic of Frustration in leadership. It can help or hurt you as a leader.  

Frustration is “a deep chronic sense or state of insecurity and dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs.” (Merriam-Webster)
Leaders in the Home Front deal with frustration all the time. They also know how to coach others on how to revert the effects of frustration by simply encouraging their mentee to change their Perspective. You are denying your issue, you are not negating your feelings, you are simply changing the way way you see your situation. If you can see differently, you can gain a better approach to turn Frustration into Gratification. Here are 5 steps:

1. Rest • the best decisions in a frustrating situation will not come when your anxiety is elevated. Resting is a powerful weapon against frustration because of the rejuvenating power it brings to your mind. Your decision making abilities become sharper when you are rested.
2. Go for a Walk • Conditioning your body is one of the best ways of releasing frustration in a healthy way. You will also be amazed at the ideas that will come to your mind when you go for walk or a run.
3. Write it Down • if you can’t talk about it, write about it. Journaling will help you organize your ideas. Looking at your situation on paper may help you find a great solution.
4. Seek Counseling • Having someone reliable to talk to can help you release frustration and find Gratification in a healthy way. Good counselors are not there to be bias. They listen to you and help you find quality in your situation. It is wise to have great counselors in your life. (Demystifying Counseling Podcast)
5. Pray • Talking to God is refreshing to the soul. I find that even when my situation does not change, my heart does as I practice these 5 steps. Talking to God encourages me to have compassion for others who are going through similar situation. Compassion moves me to plant seeds of kindness in the lives of others.

Leaders who successfully turn Frustration into Gratification gain a keen awareness of how their organization can grow and be relevant in their area of influence. I challenge you not to internalize your frustration but recognize it is there and change your Perspective. Use any of the 5 keys to help you find Gratification. Remember than when you see differently there are no limits to what you can accomplish.

Previously in this series: Organization