Transition and the Dorm Room

Saturday, July 15, 2017

It is weird not to have answers about your future. I didn’t have a lot of answers to give after graduating from College in the Spring of 2002. I had completed my degree and I had ‘cast the net’ for graduate schools. I wasn’t sure where I was going to be but God found a way to lead me to the place I’d meet Zeke and where my life would be forever enhanced.

I didn’t call it “transition” back then, I just thought it was part of the process. I remember moving to a temporary dorm where I put all the worldly belongings I possessed in 4 years of college in the US. I had my car by then and I was eagerly waiting for 3 Universities to answer my applications for graduate studies. Now that I’m thinking about it, my answer came quickly, I didn’t stay in that temporary dorm for too long. God really did go before me and arranged a great place for me to live in a good neighborhood. I worked hard, learned a lot and the day I graduated, I had a job waiting for me. God was amazingly gracious.

I hate to admit it but graduation day couldn’t come unless I took all my belongings to that temporary dorm. Have you ever felt like you were in a temporary dorm?

I remember laying on my temporary bed feeling tired from my graduation celebration. I remember grabbing a temporary phone to give my parents an update. The next thing I remember is that I was reading an email congratulating me for a scholarship. I was soon moving to Oxford to start my next chapter.

Transition feels stationary but you’re really moving. It feels painful, but progress is being made in the heavenly realm. I can’t help but believe that God is making crooked ways straight and He has the power to literally unroll roads so we can walk in them.

If you are in transition, remember to have hope. You have to have hope that things will get better even when you feel like they’re not. You have to have a solid foundation in God’s Truth which is His Word. Motivation and Inspiration do not work when you’re in transition: your foundation of faith needs to be solid and it it needs to come from God’s Word and from His ways.

Another thing I naturally did: I did not talk to a multitude of people about my transition experience in College. I trusted my family and a few mentors who encouraged me to press on towards my goal. It worked! This was before social media and I still keep this habit. I am not trying to hide the fact that I am in transition, I am wisely saving my ‘emotional energy.’ Instead of spreading emotional energy out there, I trust intimate information to people who love me and who can ‘get a prayer through.’ Everyone else can hear about the end of the story when God writes it publicly. It was wise to save my energy towards the process of transitioning to my next phase.

Take it from me, it may feel weird now but God is working on your behalf. This is not about understanding the ‘whens’ and ‘whys.’ This is about solid trust in a God who delivers on His word.

There’s quite a bit of waiting when transition is involved. I have learned that taking care of my health is a wise thing to do. Investing time in rest, exercise, eating the best nutrition and loving my family have been pretty awesome. God is going to deliver on His word, I have no doubt. I believe it is wise for me to take a vacation from stress and enjoy this time of waiting in good health.

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