I saw that closed door as a reflection of our dying friendship. The door was shut, there was no going back.
The next time we met, I was pleasant. Inside, I knew things changed.
The same thing happened to me recently. While I waited outside another shut door, the feeling was too familiar.
I reminded myself, it was a reflection of our friendship. The door was shut and there was no going back.
Rejection always hurts but closed doors in friendships can be freeing.
• Closed doors freed my time to welcome life-giving relationships. Because I wasn’t hanging out with my old friend, I had time to welcome wonderful new people. I met some incredible people post-rejection and I kept in touch with old friends. There isn’t a lack of good friendships, there is such thing as a life that’s too busy for them to find their way into our hearts.
• Closed doors freed me from uncertainty. Have you ever hung out with someone yet you never knew where you stood with them? When I experienced rejection, I was suddenly free from uncertainty. I knew exactly where I stood: outside of that friend’s most intimate areas of life. Now, when new friends come into my life, I have learned to know where I stand. I try to master this ability quickly. Even if you are a casual, twice a year hang out kind of friend, you need to be certain of where you stand.
• Closed doors freed me from unhealthy expectations. I placed those on myself. I have this addiction to loyalty in friendships. The truth is that toxic friendships do not require loyalty, they actually need to be expelled from my life. Friendship rejection has a way of opening my eyes to unhealthy expectations I put on myself.
The weather has been hot every time I’ve been waiting outside of a literal door of rejection. Clarity comes with warmer temps. Rejection always hurts but closed doors in friendships have freed me over and over again.
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